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Originally posted by valkyrie
See, that's the problem. Why would you presume that the mother is going to raise the children? I think it's fairly common for parents to have joint custody when they're not together. Say you date a guy with kids, things go really well, and you eventually end up getting married. At that point, it is going to be your responsibility, at least to some extent, to help raise his kids. If they're spending weekends with you, or every other week, or the summer, you are going to have a huge role in raising them, and you're probably going to have a lot of "You're not my mother!" drama because they don't want to listen to you. When they are staying with you, for all intents and purposes, it would be as if they were your own children. It would be a HUGE amount of work, and I think it would be very difficult, because the kids had been raised without you until that point -- so they may have behavior problems and issues that really bother you.
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When you get married, then of course, you have to make space for the child in your life..but as far as dating, I'm not going to be babysitting his kids, thats the job of the biological parents. I'm not going to blow off a nice guy that I'm compatible with because of a cute little kid. When it comes to marriage, its a whole different story though, you're right...you are going to have all sorts of drama...but you work it out.
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