Why you didn't make it into a sorority.

[sugar and spice]

On picking our girls for the fraternity boys: It happens, unfortunately. Everytime you say, about a rushee, "Awww, she's so cute!" (and mean it in terms of looks and not personality) you're enforcing it. For those of us who are heterosexual, which is most of us in the sorority system, why do we care if our sisters are beautiful on the outside? We don't, unless it's to impress the guys.

And yeah, it sucks. But unless every single woman in the sorority system at your school decides to reject that viewpoint, it's not going to change. And since most of the girls at the top of the looks pyramid like being the favorites, it's unlikely to happen.

On my size-ism on rush at some schools: Obviously I can't speak for every school, but here's the problem with rushing and being overweight at a campus like mine: of COURSE everyone wants a sister with a great personality over one who is beautiful and b*tchy. But the problem is that, in a rush like this, you might be a bit chubby and have a great personality -- but the majority of the girls going through have great personalities and are beautiful and skinny to boot. So you have an automatic handicap to overcome in order to get into the more competitive sororities. Does that mean you won't get a bid? Of course not -- 9 times out of 10 a sorority would rather give a bid to the girl with the great personality who's a little overweight than the one who's beautiful but annoying or mean or tacky. But you're not just competing with annoying, mean, tacky, beautiful, skinny girls -- you're also competing with gracious, funny, enthusiastic, beautiful, skinny girls. Depending on how great your personality is, it may or may not be enough to get you into the house of your dreams.

But as stated, this isn't just a problem with rush, it's a problem with life. You will run into variations of this problem over and over again throughout your life -- not just getting the sorority you want, but getting the guy, getting the job . . . It sucks. It's not fair. That's been established. But what do we do about it from here?