Mental Health and Taboo topics in OUR community - Page 7

AKA_Monet · #1 02-22-2008, 09:13 PM

Since this forum is in the AKA Ave. and the Moderators support the comments made here:

I want to make this place a "safe zone" for anyone who feels so empowered to talk freely. Many of us have made ourselves vulnerable here, but that fact is outweighed by COMMUNICATION...

Ground rules are: there is no judgment. If one has to judge, send a PM and do it. Blasting is uncool in this thread.

People can provide what worked for them and support for one another. That is what this thread is all about.

If you have some real issues you need to discuss with professionals, and their advice is for only for the purposes of entertainment, PM them. In no way should it be used as a substitution for real treatment options.

Now, there is at least one professional on this thread willing to accept PMs. Please read the thread because it is not my place to single them out.

Rules are subject to change without notice.

Please list to say you agree to these rules. If you don't agree to these rules, we just won't expect your participation and we can remove your posts. I am just protecting folks here...

AKA_Monet · #2 02-22-2008, 11:10 PM

Pretty good site...

It is just a starting point for those who want to pursue their own research...

mulattogyrl · #3 02-23-2008, 11:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Since this forum is in the AKA Ave. and the Moderators support the comments made here:

I want to make this place a "safe zone" for anyone who feels so empowered to talk freely. Many of us have made ourselves vulnerable here, but that fact is outweighed by COMMUNICATION...

Ground rules are: there is no judgment. If one has to judge, send a PM and do it. Blasting is uncool in this thread.

People can provide what worked for them and support for one another. That is what this thread is all about.

If you have some real issues you need to discuss with professionals, and their advice is for only for the purposes of entertainment, PM them. In no way should it be used as a substitution for real treatment options.

Now, there is at least one professional on this thread willing to accept PMs. Please read the thread because it is not my place to single them out.

Rules are subject to change without notice.

Please list to say you agree to these rules. If you don't agree to these rules, we just won't expect your participation and we can remove your posts. I am just protecting folks here...

I agree

Oh, what you said about substitution. PLEASE seek professional help and do not use this thread a substitute for that.

DSTCHAOS · #4 02-23-2008, 02:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

PLEASE seek professional help and do not use this thread a substitute for that.

That's why I made the comment about not expecting everyone to share their story earlier.

PrettyInPink777 · #5 02-22-2008, 11:28 PM

agree.

Soror Ideal08, I was going to write point-by-point how it seems like we are living parallel existences, but, suffice it to say that our experiences are almost identical even in the smallest ways .... Thank you for sharing your experience .... it helps soooooooo much to know that I am not alone. Reading your post was healing to me ... I'm not the only one out there dealing with this isolation thing and the myriad challenges it brings. It helps to know that others feel the way I feel and have to cope with the same difficulties. Much love .... what a huge unexpected blessing this dialogue is! ...... and to the sorors and sisterfriends that are sharing ... God Bless y'all too...(((((nikki1920)))) ((((darling1)))) and all the rest!

This thread has just about broke a sister down and built her back up again

.... and it's nice to know that I'm not crazy

(I'm not......right??? uhhhhh...Right?? lol)

Little32 · #6 02-23-2008, 10:12 AM

I have been following this thread silently, and I just want to thank my sorors (especially my sorors), sistergreeks, and sisterfriends for courageously sharing their stories. I want to hug you all, because I know to an extent the places that you have been and how hard it is to come out of them.

The last year has been a difficult one for me--some mild depression. Because I am stubborn, I insisted on trying to work through my issues myself. I feel a lot better these days, but I am at the point where I think that I need to talk to a professional, just to help me move through this last bit.

Keep sharing ladies.

nikki1920 · #7 02-23-2008, 12:50 PM

I agree.

While we can share our stories, they, in no way, are meant to be a directive for someone to do take the same path.

You can contacy your local department of mental health for a start or go through your employer's Employee Assistance Program. If you are on Medicaid, mental health IS a covered service.

OhSoVeryLadylike · #8 02-23-2008, 12:52 PM

Agree

DSTCHAOS · #9 02-23-2008, 02:16 PM

CNN did a story called "Black and Blue: Depression Among African Americans."

Terrie Williams, author of "Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We're Not Hurting," was on there with some important reminders.

1. Issues of Af Am mental health became overshadowed during slavery where blacks learned how to hide their feelings and ignore their families' and their own needs. They had to. If slaves showed emotion or personal attention to their children, they were often sold to other slave owners. The goal was to divide the slave families so they could be herds of cattle without attachments to people, instead of humans--that makes it economically and morally easier to enslave people.

Thus, began the pattern and it is not easily broken.

2. Af Am community emphasizes prayer (which I mentioned in one of my first posts) and prayer is supposed to be the end-all-and-be-all in theory and practice for many. So people who seek help are perceived as admitting that God can't solve all and doesn't answer prayers. This is a supposed betrayal of God which contributes to silence in the communities and a failure for almost all institutions in the black community to address mental health.

3. General distrust for medicine that especially began with the Tuskegee experiment. Blacks were taken advantage in that experiment and that led to a fear of medicine and lying ass medical experts.

4. The Invincible Sista Syndrome: The mask of the superwoman that black women wear. Pay attention to the signs and symptoms of depression and other mental disorders. Give yourself the necessary attention to address this issue. Seek help before the mask cracks!!!

Terrie Williams asks that on MARCH 1 everyone goes to www.staystrongfoundation.org TO PLEDGE YOUR COMMITMENT TO THIS IMPORTANT ISSUE..

I can't find the link for the CNN story but here's more info on Af Am mental health and Terrie Williams' book and personal story:
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communit...norities_9.asp
http://www.blackvoices.com/blogs/200...on-black-pain/

DSTCHAOS · #10 02-23-2008, 02:40 PM

And it begins....

Little32 · #11 02-23-2008, 04:04 PM

I think that (above Chaos) is a troll; does not look or sound like KSUViolet. I suggest that we delete these posts whenever they appear so that they do not sidetrack and important thread.

soulfulremix · #12 02-23-2008, 07:01 PM

DSTCHAOS, have you read "Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We're Not Hurting"? It looked interesting and helpful, but I want to be sure before I buy it.

This is an amazing thread. Recently, I have taken time to summon the courage to start dealing with my own mental health needs. It is so hard to look my issues in the face and begin dealing with them - slowly. Kudos and love to all who have posted. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

DSTCHAOS · #13 02-23-2008, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by soulfulremix

DSTCHAOS, have you read "Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We're Not Hurting"? It looked interesting and helpful, but I want to be sure before I buy it.

This is an amazing thread. Recently, I have taken time to summon the courage to start dealing with my own mental health needs. It is so hard to look my issues in the face and begin dealing with them - slowly. Kudos and love to all who have posted. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I have not read it but watched her interview on CNN this morning.

Based on the interview, it should be an informative read.

mulattogyrl · #14 02-25-2008, 10:25 AM

Something else I noticed - some of what we read here may be 'triggers' for some of us. I only noticed this because I realized some things were triggers for me. So I just ask us to be careful with ourselves and be aware if something is a trigger for you. If it is, please reach out to your therapist or someone you trust and talk to them. BE SAFE.

AKA_Monet · #15 02-26-2008, 09:41 PM

Gentle GCers,

I have decided to close this thread. But as one door closes, another opens...

If interested in transcending through this wonderful new open door, please join through the link below and you will be a part of something extraordinary.

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Respectfully,

Dr. AKA Monet...