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Originally posted by ClassyLady
When Harris' relationship with Mario was relatively new, he wrote that his friends in The Group and Mario did not like each other. His friends thought Mario was using him and Mario thought the same of The Group. Harris kept his relationships with both separate as a result. When Harris learned the truth about Mario, it seemd as if his friends were right all along about Mario being
wrong for him.
Should he have considered his friends' views on Mario a little more seriously? Do you consult your friends when choosing a mate? When it comes to relationships, can your friends see the things that you don't? Can you be truly happy with a person whom your closest friends cannot stand? Is dislike between a mate and friends a sign that one has to go?
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I think that he should have considered what his friends were saying, it would have saved him a lot of headache and heartache. I do consult my friends, with my mom being the ultimate friend. Every boyfrfiend that I have had, until this one, she did not like. It might have taken me a while, but I saw the truth behind what she was saying. I think that people outside of the relationship are able to see things at face value since they are not "blinded" by like, love or lust. However, make sure these are TRUE friends, not ones who are looking out for THEIR best interests. Trust me, I know.
But that's another thread for another time.
I don't know if you can be truly happy when your closest friends cannot stand your mate. While compromising is key in any relationship, I think you would have to look at what your mate is giving up also. Dislike is not necessarily a sign that someone has to go.
I'll be back later to discuss this further. I really like this question Classy!!
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