Name Change

[tickledpink]

I thought about hyphenating it, but I just took his last name.

[Eclipse]

Originally posted by Miss. Mocha:

I think it's a personal decision, and I think your husband's feelings should play a part in the decision. Being in agreement (or close to it) when you're married gives favor from GOD.

Ain't THAT the truth, Ruth! God told both the man and woman to "leave and cleave". It's more of a mind think that a name thing to me.

[prayerfull]

No man should feel offended or threatened by a woman wanting to hyphenate her last name. Certainly, a man is still entitled to his opinions.

For the most part, I use my husbands last name. However, I live in a very close-knit community. I grew up here and my family is very well known and respected in our community. Thus, when if I'm sending out a resume, I'll hyphenate my last name because it makes me more recognizable. Likewise, I often do the same in dealing with any social, religous and political organizations for the same reason.

Other than that, I completely use my husband's last name.

[Shalom2U]

I carry my husbands last name and I continue to carry my maiden-name without hyphenating it. My son also carries my maiden name after his middle name. I did it just to be "different" from my other siblings...they call me the Lisa-Bonet of my sisters and brothers...????

Shalom Everybody~

[Poplife]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
I don't care what he thinks, that's the way it's going to be! LOL

Amen, Sista!


Unless you are going to marry Rain Man who won't "allow" his girl to decided what to do with her name!


Anyways I am my father's child and his blood with always be in me veins. I can't help but feel as if I was becoming their property should I change my name. Like it's a big ol' label or something.

"Property of XXX"

[MS.REVLON]

I am currently going thru the same discussion with my future husband. Being that I am the only child and my father is deceased I feel obligated to hyphen my last name. My fiance' at first was not to pleased with this but after explaining my reason he is starting to come around. Of course i will drop my middle name b/c I think that is just to much. Now when it comes to children I can't see me hyphenating their names. In spanish and latino families this is custom for the child to take on the mothers maiden name as a middle name but, w/o the hyphen.

[CarmelTreat]

I told my fiance' that I planned on hyphenating my name and he said that it made him feel like I was ashamed of having his last name. I tried to explain to him that I am proud of my last name and all those ancestors before me who had/have it and I wasn't about to give it up, lose a part of who I am just because I'm getting married. Then I asked him if it were legal would he drop his last name and take mine? He had no answer.

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[AKAtude]

So, would AKAtude Middle Name-Name sound terrible? Personally, I don't want to drop any of my names. Since my names aren't very long to begin with, I was thinking it would be ok. My first name is seven letters, my middle name has five, and my last name has four. My fiance's last name also has four letters. Of course, I would probably just use AKAtude M. Name-Name. I'm just too use to writing my name that way.

[Eclipse]

Originally posted by CarmelTreat:
Then I asked him if it were legal would he drop his last name and take mine? He had no answer.

CarmelTreat, I don't know about your state, but in GA when you get married both parties can change their name if they want to. There are no stipulations. If he wanted to talke your name or if both of you want to hypenate it is perfectly O.K.!

So, would AKAtude Middle Name-Name sound terrible?

That's what I did! One of my friends who did the same thing said that she got tired of writing all of that, but 5 years later I still sign my full name on checks, legal documents, etc. I not tired of it yet!