lonely and depressed...

[33girl]

sairose,

I think that part of your problem is that everyone around you is in a relationship and getting tied down early, and that's seen as normal. The first guy I dated seriously was freshman year of college...I was thinking it was going to be like a high school thing, date for 6 months or so, then move on to the next one. well this dude wanted to be MARRIED. All our friends (most of whom were upperclassmen - he was a senior) were in pre-engagement relationships. And coming from a small town where marrying and having kids is the be all and end all, it was very hard for me to not go along with it. I stayed in a very emotionally rotten relationship longer than I should have because of those old things that had been instilled in me.

When I realized that I could go out with my girlfriends and have a BETTER time than with him - it was the most amazing revelation of my life. Because I never believed that could be so. To boil it down, a man can't make you happy. You have to make you happy. lovelyivy is so right, if you are putting out the needy vibe, men will want nothing to do with you - unless they're more needy, which is never good.

Do not rule out the freshmen!! If they're hot and nice, it doesn't matter.

There are Christian based singles groups if you would feel more comfy with that. I don't know how close you are to a bigger city, but it might be worth a trip if possible.