Are you worried about our society?

[starang21]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
I can only speak for myself, but I have never once laid a hand on either of my daughters nor will I ever. How can you hit someone who is 75 pounds smaller than you? My husband and I have always used the "time out" method with them. I don't mean time out in their rooms where they have books and a television, but time out in a wooden chair in the butlers pantry.

We have been doing this since they were small, and it has always worked. I'm not saying they're perfect, because they're not. They have tantrums and they talk back, just like any kid. But they know that when I start counting them out, if I get to three and they haven't checked their bad behavior, they get their time out.

WC, if your mother had utilized corporal punishment with your brother, do you think he would not have turned out "worse than (your) sister and (you) combined"? Certainly, she would have had to come up with alternative punishment once he had a foot and a half on her, right? I just have to wonder about a punishment that becomes obsolete once the child grows larger than the parent.

Time outs work, but only if used consistently. That is key.

so does corporal punishment. you can talk about how great time outs are, because that's all you know. if you think time outs work and give a sense of right and wrong, go ahead. my child throw a tantrum? my child talk back, especially at that young an age? are you kidding me, if i ever did anything like that....i'd get the death look and that's about as far it went. we all knew what followed the look. the problem is people thinking it's ok for young kids to talk back and throw tantrums and then give reasons such as they're being individuals. sure sounds like the same reasoning that those GBN parents are using to rationalize throwing human poop on someone else. oh yea, i'm 24 and if i say something stupid, i'll still get the smack on the head...and i'm larger than both of my parents.

[docetboy]

parenting needs strictness and punishment...physical if necessary. the only language some people understand is force.

[starang21]

Originally posted by docetboy
parenting needs strictness and punishment...physical if necessary. the only language some people understand is force.

bam....there it is.

[docetboy]

why do you think we had to fight Hitler? appeasement doesn't work.

why do you think we quarantened cuba during the missile crisis? russians only understand force, not diplomacy.

[sugar and spice]

Two year old kids are not comparable to Hitler.

The point is, you can't expect little kids to NOT act up once in a while -- they're little! They don't know any better, or if they do know better than to behave like that, they want attention and don't know how else to get it.

Force is not necessary, and while I don't object to other parents spanking their kids (with the hand only, not any other object, and only for discipline, NOT ever with any intention to hurt them), I'm not going to do it. I was never spanked and I turned out fine. My sister was spanked all of maybe three times her whole childhood, and she turned out fine too. So obviously you can raise your kids right without hitting them.

I think the bigger issue isn't the form of discipline you use -- it's whether or not you teach the kid that they're not the center of the universe.

[docetboy]

there is always a limit to the force you should use. but force is sometimes necessary...not always, but sometimes.

not never, sometimes.