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Originally posted by kddani
I myself am a firm believer in controlling things that you can control.
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I dated a guy with GAD for two years. My sister has some form of anxiety/ depression too. Both were on medication for some time. Outwardly, I didn't think the medication changed thier behavior that much, but it was the inward change that they noticed.
The thing with anxiety, is that unless you take drugs, you really can't change it all that much. It's a feeling, a reaction, and it's deep down and immediate. Sometimes it goes away, and sometimes it gets better (especially if the people put themselves in situations where they don't encounter things that make them more prone to panic attacks and what not). And although you can be there for them, there is nothing you can do that will fix how they feel (I tried so hard and was very frusterated).
I know you think he's using it as a crutch, and that if he just thought about things in a different way, he would be able to get over it. But the thing with anxiety is that is very hard, and sometimes can't be done in a curcumstance, or without lots of time. Maybe it's not a crutch, but the truth.
I know that part of my breakup with my ex was that he needed time to deal with who he was, and how his anxiety fit into that picture. I couldn't help him with that.
-M
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