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here's my problem with this story:
i went into rush KNOWING which groups would drop me based solely on my appearance. out of the 7 NPC groups on my campus at the time, 5 were the "elite" sororities. their members were all stick thin, pretty, and a majority had money. i remember walking around campus and seeing girls in their letters and thinking, "i wish i were skinnier/prettier/etc so that i won't get cut by them".
and guess what happened. i was cut by those 5 the first night. now, i am white. i can't cry racism. but i know what it was---i didn't fit the "look". yes, i was upset...somehow i thought MAYBE they will ask me back just once, but i knew what would happen.
and every other girl who didn't fit their "profile" was cut that first night as well. girls with no personality but a size 4 were "automatically" asked back. and no, i wasn't paranoid or imagining things, other people felt the same way.
is it right that i got cut based on my looks? no. but i, and the other rushees, accepted it. that is sorority rush. some get cut and some fall through the cracks. and i wouldn't have felt comfortable there anyway. i would have had to lose 40 pounds, dress completely differently and gone out to places and parties that i never would have touched in college. so, should i sue? or make a national case out of this? please...my ass would be laughed back to ny.
everyone doesn't get asked back everywhere. i don't think melody was a victim of racism, i think her personality stunk or she didn't fit the profile of that chapter. not necessarily based on her skin color, but i remember looking at a picture of her and didn't think she was all that, which is what those sororities probably think they are.
if i ever said i was a victim of discrimination because of the competitive process of rush, i would be laughed at.
and i KNOW that if i went to another, especially southern, school, i probably wouldn't have been looked at by the AXO chapters. they fit a different profile, and i accept that.
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