Is it possible?

[AXOLiz]

Corina,

It sounds like you *really* like this guy.

Yes, hooking up can develop into a relationship. I've seen it happen many times, and I actually went to the wedding of a couple who met on a drunken one night stand. So it happens.

Thing is, you don't want to be emotionally attached to someone who doesn't feel the same way. There's nothing more heartbreaking than hooking up with a guy you've grown to care about and not know if he's just using you.

I think everyone's been giving great advice. But I think you have to decide for yourself what exactly you want out of this relationship. If you want more, I think you need to be honest for him for your own sanity. Playing games or beating around the bush might not work here, especially because it's so easy to try to wait for him to call and try to see if he likes you and end up right back in bed with him. It's a bad cycle to be in, and like always, I agree with JAM...in situations like these, 99.9% of the time, someone ALWAYS ends up wanting more than just a hookup and they can end up emotionally drained. Sex is inherently an emotional thing, after all.

My words of advice (after seeing this a billion times):

If you're willing to go cold turkey on the sex, be honest with him and tell him that while you started out being all about hooking up, you've really grown to like him. And tell him you understand if he doesn't feel the same way because you know it was originally just about hooking up, but at the same time, he has to know that you have feelings for him and it'll only get worse if you keep hooking up with him. I wouldn't even ask his opinion on it right then. Let him know you like him too much to do what you're doing without getting hurt and leave it at that. Don't give him any ultimatums or try to pull him into a discussion.

And don't put him on the spot. Let him think about it, and wait for him to contact you if he needs time (which he likely will). If he doesn't contact you, he's a pansy, but anyway...if he doesn't want you as his girlfriend (which from all I've seen of you on here, he'd be stupid not to), that's his choice, but at least you'll know now before you get even more attached which is inevitable the longer you have sex. And who knows, maybe he's had feelings for you the whole time but has been afraid to reveal them because he thought you were just in it for the hooking up.

If you tell him how you feel, at least you'll know either way. Otherwise, you could still be right where you are 4 months from now and still not know how he feels.

Good luck!!!

Liz