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I don't think there's a "soulmate" for each person. That's too much of a one-shot deal. I've only been in love once, and I loved the guy completely, but there was no way it would work for various reasons and I ended the relationship. I still love him to this day, but I also know that we'd drive each other nuts. I know I'll be able to find someone else who I love, and while it'll be different, I know eventually I'll find someone who I love at least as much, if not more. And, if we're both ready for marriage at that point in our lives, so be it. If it ends, I'm sure I'll eventually find someone else. The guy I marry will be one that, even though he may not be THE ONE, I can't imagine finding something better AND we're both at the point in our lives when we're ready to fully commit to each other.
I think when people think in terms of THE ONE, it puts way too much pressure on relationships. A friend of mine told me her biggest fear is that she'll find THE ONE and mess it up somehow and be alone for the rest of her life. She was putting so much pressure on finding THE ONE that she failed to see all the potential around her.
MY whole point reminds me of what talk show hosts say to parents about to have their second child...they love the first one so much that they can't imagine how they'll have that much love for the second child. But the second child comes along and they end up loving them too. No one ever said there's only room in your heart for one person.
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