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My big is the coolest. I didn't know her too well when it came time to pick bigs, but she had gone out of her way when she was my pledge pal (as pledges, we were assigned a different active every week for about 6 weeks to get to know them) to spend time with me outside of DZ functions, so I picked her, and it turned out to be the best decision ever. She was always there for me in every respect, and is someone I credit with who I am today.
My littles were slightly different--it was a mutual process in our chapter, kind of like bid matching, and all my li'ls were my first choice (I have 3 official, 1 adopted when her big turned in her badge). My first official was fun & energetic & I loved hanging out with her. My second, I hate to say it, guilted me into taking a little that semester (the old "I'll depledge if you dont' pick me as your li'l"...which I fell for). I had nothing in common with her, and she complained alot about DZ and I couldn't deal with it. She ended up turning in her badge after I graduated & I haven't heard from her since. Third little has become one of my best friends...we clashed a little while we were still in school, but now that we are "grown-ups" we have a special bond.
Bigs/Lils are pretty important in my opinion. I don't think everyone should be allowed to take one (harsh, I know).... It sounds like you are putting alot of thought into it thought-and your little will be so fortunate to have you.
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