Okay, I know I wasn't formally invited but I did want to add my .02 cents.
What I've noticed lately has been a very encouraging trend to me. My husband and I were married in 1996, 3 of our friends (couples) were married that same year, and about 7 of our friends have been married since that.... WE ARE ALL STILL TOGETHER.
And let me tell you, some of these couples have taken each other through some HELLACIOUS times. Everything from drug abuse, to chronic illness, from cheating, to loss of jobs, from repossession to foreclosure and we have all managed to hang in there.
What I hear from most of my married girlfriends (and I'll admit that I say it, too) is "Girl, I know him, he knows me, I'm not tryin' to break in nobody new." Believe it or not, I've heard the fellas say similar things.
My husband is a MASON, so we spend a great deal of time around other young marrieds. It helps. We have role models, because everybody has been married for different lengths of time, you console and commiserate with each other. I can tell you about how it was the 1st yr, somebody else can tell me how it is the 7th.
The bottom line is that marriage takes work. It really has to be understood and taken as what it is, or it can be very easy to get into an "I'm quitting you!!!" situation when times get trying.
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