Are you a legacy?

AOTLALA · #1 07-27-2001, 11:43 AM

Okay, I was not a legacy of a greek organization, but in my GLO(AOTT) getting legacies is a huge deal and I just wondered if anyone out there who was a legacy to a greek organization felt a lot of pressure to go to that organization or really felt they could go there own way

pbpck · #2 07-27-2001, 01:25 PM

There is definitely that pressure for some girls. We had a Pi Phi leg in my pledge class. The cool thing is that her mom never had told her which sorority she was a sister of in college. She had known that her mom was in a sorority, and knew that she wanted to rush when she got to college. Come pref night, she called her mom stressed. She told her mom that she was preffing Pi Phi and Kappa and was torn. Her mom started crying on the phone and said that she was proud that her daughter had come this far and chosen everything on her own. She then said "Honey, you go wherever you can call home and wherever you can call the girls your sisters, but if I had to choose for you, I would hope that you find it in Pi Phi tonight." The daughter started crying and went and filled out her pref card. I am now proud to say that I can call this girl my sister. Her mother came to our initiation and it was so touching.

Another guy in Sigma Chi didn't know that his father was a Sigma Chi until he was present at his initiation ritual.

I guess it shows that you end up where you belong.

But girls shouldn't feel pressure. In fact three of our girls were DG legacies and preffed Pi Phi and DG and went Pi Phi. A hard decision, but the mothers and sisters supported them because they wanted the girls to experience the same joy that they did through the sorority experience.

I have a younger sister and she already wants to go Pi Phi. But I realize that if she attends a different university, I will be there for her and be proud of her simply being greek.

In order to avoid the whole legacy rut, just send in the legacy rec to the specific chapter and have the rushee not mention it on the Panhell recruitment form at the beggining of rush.

LeslieAGD · #3 07-27-2001, 01:32 PM

That's a very cool story, pcpck. In our chapter we have a few DZ legacies, a few Sigma legacies, and a Alphi Phi legacy. On of my sister's mom actually was in the founding chapter of a certain sorority chapter on my campus and they dropped her, so it just goes to show that being a legacy isn't a sure thing.

mets31grl · #4 07-27-2001, 01:38 PM

At our school legacies are a HUGE compeition. If your soority sangs anopther chapters legacy it is a huge thing. Also if you lose a legacy to another chapter that is really bad as well.

sigkapdancer · #5 07-27-2001, 01:42 PM

I am a Chi O legacy, but I went through rush with an open mind 2 years ago. I decided to give every house the same chance as Chi O. I ended up not joining Chi O, and I am happy with my decision. Sororities are concerned with the woman--not what sorority she may or may not be a legacy of.

SSS1365 · #6 07-27-2001, 02:15 PM

We had 3 legacies go through in the spring, and we lost all 3 of them

I only really liked one of them though... I know that sounds bad, but 2 of them were kind of rude.

princessgin · #7 07-27-2001, 02:39 PM

my real sis was a adpi & I graduated early from high school and she wanted me to rush that next fall. I was around a lot of her sorority sisters and really liked them a lot after awhile. Me and my sister are complete opposites so I never figured I would rush her sorority. Yet, I found out that in a group of over a hundred girls I met some just like me and the others were awesome,too. They had an informal rush this past spring and I am so glad I joined. Being a legacy I know made my sister want me really bad, but she left the decision up to me. That's what good sista's do.

dzrose93 · #8 07-27-2001, 02:44 PM

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Originally posted by SSS1365:
We had 3 legacies go through in the spring, and we lost all 3 of them I only really liked one of them though... I know that sounds bad, but 2 of them were kind of rude.

I know exactly what you mean, SSS1365. In my chapter, it was an unwritten rule that direct legacies would be extended a bid, except in the most extreme of cases (and I do mean extreme!).

I didn't like the idea for 2 reasons: 1) it was obvious that some of the girls were more interested in another house, and, by offering her a bid, we were basically wasting one of our spots. 2) some girls came through Rush acting extremely rude with an air of superiority, as if they were entitled to a bid just because their mother, grandmother, sister, etc. was a member.

I am happy to say that the way my chapter deals with legacies has loosened up a bit since my days as a collegiate. Although I do understand the importance of legacies, and agree that they should be afforded extra courtesy during Rush, I firmly believe that rushees should remember that the extra courtesy is extended because of the alumna that the rushee is related to, and NOT the rushee herself. In my opinion, she should try to make a good impression just as much as a rushee with no legacy ties.

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newbie · #9 07-27-2001, 03:45 PM

I am a Kappa Delta legacy!

Unfortunately, most of the colleges that I'm interested in do not have Kappa Delta

. I would be so happy if I could continue in my sister's footsteps and choose Kappa Delta, but unfortunately, I probably will not have the chance to do so

. I cannot tell you how happy my sister was as a sister of Kappa Delta, and I can only hope that I will have the same happiness with whichever sorority I choose!

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IowaHawkeye · #10 07-27-2001, 06:57 PM

I'm an AGD legacy, however Iowa's AGD chapter closed a few years back - and DZ was the best place for me anyway

I know a lot of girls at Iowa who are KD, SK, SSS, or AOP lagacies, however we have none of these sororities so these women end up going wherever they feel most like home - and thats how it should be.

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dzsaigirl · #11 07-27-2001, 07:56 PM

I am a Chi Omega legacy, but I did not feel any pressure whatsoever from my family to go Chi O. Different schools have different chapters and even at the same school, once the years have passed, chapter dynamics change. I kept an open mind about where to go and I loved Delta Zeta so much, that it wasn't much of a difficult decision to make. My chapter does have several legacies, but none of them say that their DZ legacy is the reason they joined. They also kept an open mind, which is the best thing to do!

Angelic · #12 07-28-2001, 12:02 AM

I'm not a legacy but my little sister (blood) will be going through recruitment at my school this fall. Of course I would want her to be a pi phi but I told her that she shouldn't feel pressured to join my sorority. I'm just worried that (since our campus is fairly small) the girls in the other houses will find out that she is my sister and assume she is going to go pi phi and not really give her a chance. I want her to have all of the opportunities I had when I went through rush and I don't want all of the other houses to drop her because they assumed something that wasn't true. What do you guys think I should do?

LeslieAGD · #13 07-28-2001, 12:25 AM

We had a girl go through recruitment last year who's sister was a current member of a sorority on our campus. We loved her but the only thing was that she was a senior already. She prefed us but ended up going to her sister's GLO because of the pressure and because she felt bad about taking a spot away from who would be around for a few more years.

I also rushed with a girl in the same situation (except that she was a freshman not a senior) and she also joined her sister's GLO.

ilovemyglo · #14 07-28-2001, 12:31 AM

Two of my sisters were AOPi legacies. One's sister is an AOPi at another state school and the other's mother was. They were happy with their choices, though! Monica (her sister is an AOPi) said her sister loves AGD now just cause she is in it, but she cried when Monica chose AGD. She didn't like the chapter at my school though.
Another sister isn't a legacy but four of her aunts were AGD's and two cousins. She felt compelled to go AGD, not because of them, but because the person who preffed her had known her all her life. She was torn between us and another group... she asked the girl preffing her if they would still be friends if she went the other group and she said no, that they would still get along but never hang out or see each other.
That sealed the deal for her!!!
We have two legacies coming through this year. One is the sister of an Active and the other is a double legacy from her grandmother and sister. We don't have to take them. Last year a legacy went through and like all other NPC groups we had to invite her to the second round of parties, but she declined (thank god!). She was rude, obnoxious and kept carrying on "I know I am a legacy here, but I really think that I should be an XYZ because they take the prettiest girls on campus" The second round of parties she showed up in a strapless zebra print dress that was two sizes too small... we were so relieved!!!

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Harmony · #15 07-28-2001, 02:24 AM

In my pledge class we have 2 (3?) SK legacies...one girls was a 3 way. Her grandmother, aunt and mom are all SKs...the craziest part was they all came to our initiation. Her mom lives in Egypt! And she came all that way. We also have 2 Gamma Phi Beta legacies. Being a legacy is a huge deal though.