What do you feel like saying, right now?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lol so it’s definitely a thing then. Chicks are slick.


LMAO! She caught her ass. I get it though, I wouldn’t have caught it. Knowing me, I’d have accepted the plate of food offer not knowing. I didn’t know that was a thing until ol girl said it and what y’all are saying here.

After your wife told you what she saw, you shot that chick down fast Lol. You didn’t leave ambiguity or room for her to try again. And you were kind enough not to embarrass her, but clear enough that she wouldn’t misunderstand. I like that in you, PB.

Thanks, man. For me, it wasn’t about protecting myself, I’ve never been drawn to anyone else. Just my wife. The way I see it — as a husband, it’s my responsibility to protect my wife’s place, to cover her so she never feels disrespected or competed with.

When she showed me what was going on, I didn’t take it personally, I took it seriously. That woman wasn’t just offering food, she was testing a boundary. I shut it down because I’m not leaving cracks for disrespect to walk through.

I didn’t embarrass her, but I made sure there was no doubt, no invitations, no open doors, and no chance for confusion. For me, it’s all about being accountable to God for how I honor my wife and guard what He gave me.

That’s how I protect peace in my home. That’s how I protect her heart.

That said, I may not have caught the early signs from that woman, without my wife bringing it to my attention, but I know I’d have had sense enough to know not to accept a plate of food from her. Regardless. Hayle to the naw! I’m not stupid. 😂

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by AGDee

He still talks about the home made spaghetti sauce I made him for his birthday in his dorm room 40 years ago so... yeah.

I made him an omelette yesterday morning with ham, bacon and a 16 year aged wisconsin cheddar and he was all over that. He went on and on about it all day.

Damn! You must really can cook if he went back to some 40 year old spaghetti sauce LOL.

When a woman can cook, that does something to me. It makes me like her more, so I guess that saying is true. I think that’s true with most or all dudes to a degree.

@ CG, I guess you’re an exception to the rule since you can’t cook worth a damn Lol. But you know what I said about that. Your situation also has a rule.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Thanks, man. For me, it wasn’t about protecting myself, I’ve never been drawn to anyone else. Just my wife. The way I see it — as a husband, it’s my responsibility to protect my wife’s place, to cover her so she never feels disrespected or competed with.

When she showed me what was going on, I didn’t take it personally, I took it seriously. That woman wasn’t just offering food, she was testing a boundary. I shut it down because I’m not leaving cracks for disrespect to walk through.

I didn’t embarrass her, but I made sure there was no doubt, no invitations, no open doors, and no chance for confusion. For me, it’s all about being accountable to God for how I honor my wife and guard what He gave me.

That’s how I protect peace in my home. That’s how I protect her heart.

That said, I may not have caught the early signs from that woman, without my wife bringing it to my attention, but I know I’d have had sense enough to know not to accept a plate of food from her. Regardless. Hayle to the naw! I’m not stupid. 😂

Call me stupid then because I’d have told her to bring me a plate, not knowing LOL. For real.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

When a woman can cook, that does something to me. It makes me like her more, so I guess that saying is true.

Call me stupid then because I’d have told her to bring me a plate, not knowing LOL. For real.

Sounds like you better make an advance reservation at a local senior living center and get ready for a lot of plates, lol!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Damn! You must really can cook if he went back to some 40 year old spaghetti sauce LOL.

When a woman can cook, that does something to me. It makes me like her more, so I guess that saying is true. I think that’s true with most or all dudes to a degree.

@ CG, I guess you’re an exception to the rule since you can’t cook worth a damn Lol. But you know what I said about that. Your situation also has a rule.
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[cheerfulgreek]

WIFLSRN: We hired a new vet tech. Today is her first day. I swear, she’s probably like “What the heck kind of vet hospital is this?” lol

I had to let her know she’s new so she’s today’s target for our own entertainment. We have fun here.

[PrettyBoy]

I hope they throw this clown under the jail.

https://www.bbc.com/news/live/crm39gjvv97t

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

You don’t remember my post?

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I hope they throw this clown under the jail.

https://www.bbc.com/news/live/crm39gjvv97t

Dude, I’m listening to a podcast about him now. I’m hearing why he wasn’t let out.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

You don’t remember my post?

Dude, I’m listening to a podcast about him now. I’m hearing why he wasn’t let out.

Doesn’t matter to me, man. I said I “hope”. He’ll walk because today’s society celebrates bad character and mistake it for power. Meanwhile, real strength (kindness) is dismissed as weak. He’s able to hide who he is because the clothes he wears is also accepted now — dresses like a thug because you can’t dress up what’s inside. The heart always leaks through. No amount of money can hide spiritual poverty. But most won’t notice because people have normalized brokenness and glamorized dysfunction.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

You don’t remember my post?

About?

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Total BS. She's intelligent, she's beautiful, she's strong, she's got a positive attitude but what sealed the deal with her and her hubby is their faith and their values. Any marriage based just on looks is doomed to fail. And she has so much more going for her than looks.

I agree, no argument there, she’s the whole package. I’m just pointing out the fact that the application got noticed because of the cover letter Lol. Men are visual, it’s wired in. We can’t help it. Y’all aren’t wired like we are. That’s why dudes and women don’t look at attraction the same way. Y’all can be with an ugly dude who treats you right. We can’t do that with chicks.

I met CG in real life and her looks aren’t even up for debate. I’m just pointing out the fact that she wouldn’t be wifey if she wasn’t packin the visuals. That’s just male to female biology. But what made it forever, that’s the character, the faith, the values and the other internal things you’re talking about. Her looks made dude say with the quickness.. “You don’t have to know how to cook” LMAO.

[PrettyBoy]

You’re both right, honestly. The truth is, men are wired to be visual — science backs that up, and you see it in Scripture too. Just look at how often beauty is described in the Bible as catching a man’s attention (Genesis 29:17, 2 Samuel 11:2). Physical attraction is often the doorway, but it’s not the foundation. Proverbs 31 reminds us that “charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”. Beauty may open a man’s eyes, but character is what keeps his heart, unless his motives are selfish and he’s only pursuing what gratifies the flesh, not what honors God.

IMO, what Phroze is describing isn’t shallow, it’s biological and relational. A man’s first pull might be looks, but what makes him choose her for life is her faith, values, and character. That’s the deeper spiritual principle here — beauty fades (Proverbs 31:30), but a godly character endures. The problem isn’t being drawn to beauty, it’s building on beauty instead of building on faith.

In the end, both are necessary in their own place. Attraction gets attention but character keeps commitment.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I’m just pointing out the fact that the application got noticed because of the cover letter Lol.

😂😂 Man, you are one funny brother.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

When I said you can’t cook but still got wifed? Yeah… no questions here. Some trades speak for themselves. In other words…. you know your looks sealed the deal. Dudes are visual, it’s just facts Lol.

lol
I see what you’re doing here, Phrozen. But let’s be honest, looks might catch a guy’s eye, but I don’t believe it’s what keeps him. I mean, attraction wears off fast if there’s nothing attractive inside. I’m just grateful God gave me more than a “cute” face (and a man smart enough to notice). I mean, beauty is a bonus, yes, but I just think that it’s the internal beauty that’s the covenant. I just don’t think anyone can build forever on surface. Know what I mean?

Originally Posted by AGDee

Total BS. She's intelligent, she's beautiful, she's strong, she's got a positive attitude but what sealed the deal with her and her hubby is their faith and their values. Any marriage based just on looks is doomed to fail. And she has so much more going for her than looks.

Thank you, Dee, your words truly mean a lot to me. I couldn’t agree more about marriage. It’s about so much more than love or attraction. I just think it’s about faithfulness, friendship, forgiveness, and choosing to love every single day. And I really appreciate your wisdom.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I agree, no argument there, she’s the whole package. I’m just pointing out the fact that the application got noticed because of the cover letter Lol. Men are visual, it’s wired in. We can’t help it. Y’all aren’t wired like we are. That’s why dudes and women don’t look at attraction the same way. Y’all can be with an ugly dude who treats you right. We can’t do that with chicks.

I met CG in real life and her looks aren’t even up for debate. I’m just pointing out the fact that she wouldn’t be wifey if she wasn’t packin the visuals. That’s just male to female biology. But what made it forever, that’s the character, the faith, the values and the other internal things you’re talking about. Her looks made dude say with the quickness.. “You don’t have to know how to cook” LMAO.

lol
Hilarious! Thanks, Phrozen. That’s really sweet of you. And yes, I know, guys are definitely visual. But it’s not just guys. Like most women, I notice looks in men too, I’m not gonna lie. But I’ve always been like, okay sure he’s cute, but can he show up? Does he have character? I needed someone who could love me through the hard stuff, not just the cute days. Looks are fun, but commitment and integrity are what keep me, and also what should keep a guy.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You’re both right, honestly. The truth is, men are wired to be visual — science backs that up, and you see it in Scripture too. Just look at how often beauty is described in the Bible as catching a man’s attention (Genesis 29:17, 2 Samuel 11:2). Physical attraction is often the doorway, but it’s not the foundation. Proverbs 31 reminds us that “charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”. Beauty may open a man’s eyes, but character is what keeps his heart, unless his motives are selfish and he’s only pursuing what gratifies the flesh, not what honors God.

IMO, what Phroze is describing isn’t shallow, it’s biological and relational. A man’s first pull might be looks, and while visual cues can be a starting point, attraction is multifaceted and also involves personality, shared interests, emotional connection, along with faith, values, character and so much more. That’s the deeper spiritual principle here — beauty fades (Proverbs 31:30), but a godly character endures. The problem isn’t being drawn to beauty, it’s building on beauty instead of building on faith.

In the end, both are necessary in their own place. Attraction gets attention but character keeps commitment.

Fixed your post for ya.

Still pushes like button.