Crying at a house during rush, what would you do?

[Cheerio]

Originally Posted by greeklifegogree

At your school if you found out a girl had cried at another house would you cut her?

***Your question requires revelation of a Membership Selection Process, which is not done on this site.

Would people even talk like that between houses?

***Ditto.

I know word probably spreads like "did you hear a girl cried at XYZ house", but would you then ask the PNMs name and get her cut from your house?

***Fixating on your seemingly unpleasant personal recruitment event doesn't move you forward into joy. All you can do is change your future response to any similar life event. What others thought of you, or may have done/not done in their response to your actions, is totally not what you need to worry about.

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[carnation]

What she said. ^^^

[greeklifegogree]

I don’t see how asking that is revealing selection secrets. It’s just would you personally think that is a good reason to cut someone if you found out they cried at another house? Have you ever heard of this happening?

It would make me feel better if someone could tell me that it is unlikely to be the reason or that girls have cried in your house and it wasn’t that big a deal. Or that yea people might talk but they wouldn’t get her dropped from their house.

[carnation]

Maybe if a girl made a huge scene at a house or in another case, said or did something rude, the word would get around. It would have to be really bad, though.

This is something not to beat yourself up about, though, since you'll never know,

[honeychile]

Something similar happened when i was Chapter Advisor. It was the Philanthropy Round, and we had videos of Ronald McDonald House showing throughout the house. One of the PNMs saw a young relative in the video and burst into tears.

As an Advisor, I immediately asked if I could talk to her alone for a moment. She was scared and a little ashamed at the same time, and told me a thumbnail of the relative. I assured her that we were looking for women who weren't robotic and did have empathy, and she got back into the rotation. During MS, I announced that she would be invited back for one more round.

We were fortunate to get this young woman, who went on to be Chapter President and admired throughout the Greek community.

Life isn't all parties and fun, and without patting myself on the back, I like to think that we handled this right.

[SWTXBelle]

During rush, I was told right before going into a top tier house to which I was a legacy that my beloved aunt had died. I was a sophomore, so I knew if I didn't go through rush then I probably wouldn't be able to pledge, and I had seen her a few weeks before, so made my good bye (she died tragically young from breast cancer) then. I went to the party. But when I was asked how I was, I burst into tears. They cut me.

A few years later, as I was being presented as the outstanding senior woman of my class, a member of Top Tier who was a friend of my mother's said "I can't believe we didn't pledge her." Completely their loss.

All that to say, if a house would cut you for crying, what kind of support you could expect as a sister?