Question for Sorority Girls

[AnchorAlumna]

Whether or not you regard "shaking up" as a sin, not living with your sisters in some setting is going to make your experience of bonding with them a little different from the other sisters. There's something to be said for living with other people and getting to now them on that level. You're not going to share late-night confidences, sitting around somebody's room and sharing your thoughts and experiences.
You probably will have to make more of an effort to spend time there and be there so you DO share experiences together.

[NYCMS]

I agree with AnchorAlumna - your choice of living with your boyfriend means your time with your sisters is limited, therefore it cuts into the time needed to bond.

One thing I sometimes read on this board from pledges is that they expect bonding to happen almost instantly "because" they pledged the same house (no it doesn't but being with each other consistently does). Add into the mix the fact that you're not available much and that might make the other pledges less likely to want to spend time with you because they know you're not available and they want to be with girls who are. In that regard you are at a different stage of life since you're moving toward marriage and I suspect most of them aren't.