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I think that crying is okay. I commented on the thread that you are talking about that I cried at pref, AND I cried while reading about Fewdfreak's pref. In my chapter, girls cried. Our pref ceremony has some very profound and touching moments and when you sing some of the words to those songs and hear some of the things that your sisters say, even the least emotional person is bound to shed a tear. Couple the emotion from the ceremony with the fact that people are DOG TIRED from the week of rush and it is not at all a surprise.
Now we I am not saying it is a good idea to be wailing...even if you are crying pretty hard, you should try not to make actual boo-hoo noises...that could get a little freaky. But streaming tears and sniffling and maybe having to pause a little while giving a speech, that's fine.
I think that suggesting that someone supress their emotions by not crying is sort of a cold way to look at pref. Why deny the emotion?
And by the same token, I think it is a BAD idea to make the crying something that is planned...if you have to try to make yourself cry because you think it will tug at the heartstrings, that is just acting...pref is about being real and showing the true bond of your sisterhood.
There is a song we sing at pref that has these words at the beginning "It's not a dream, this is life and it's for real. The love we have, it's not a show, it's what we feel..." I think this is what pref should be all about!
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