bid day gone wrong..so sorry this is long but heres my story

[navane]

Originally Posted by AOII*Azra-elle

My understanding is that she thinks they’ll give her a bid—-that she cannot accept for a year. And, that chapter is above campus total, so they won’t be doing COB or spring recruitment. I have no sympathy at this point.

Oof. Let us know how that works out. If the other chapter wanted her enough, she would have been higher on their bid list.

[anongreek]

I knew girls who completely dropped out of rush way early into the process after only being dropped from their #1 top choice, which seemed sad to me. Why not at least continue rush and give the other sororities a chance! I know SO many girls who came into rush with the idea in their head they HAD TO HAVE XYZ, and then when they went through rush and met all of the sororities, they totally fell in love with another sorority,got a bid from them on bid day and were absolutely happy with their choice, and that they allowed themselves to get to know all of the other orgs before choosing! It is so easy to say I want to be XYZ, because my best friend at _________ University is a XYZ!!! But every sorority at every school is different! You may find a sorority you fall in love with that you never expected! I hate that so many people in greek orgs have such sad bid day stories/ rush stories

[NYCMS]

Originally Posted by anongreek

I knew girls who completely dropped out of rush way early into the process after only being dropped from their #1 top choice, which seemed sad to me. Why not at least continue rush and give the other sororities a chance! I know SO many girls who came into rush with the idea in their head they HAD TO HAVE XYZ, and then when they went through rush and met all of the sororities, they totally fell in love with another sorority,got a bid from them on bid day and were absolutely happy with their choice

Agree. I remember a chapter legacy who rushed the year I did - I think her grandmother also was a Gamma Phi She was released the first year and dropped out of rush at that point. Determined to be a Gamma Phi despite 11 other wonderful sororities.

She rushed her sophomore year. We released her after 2nd round, not a personality fit. She dropped out of rush again. I met her the next year through friends and when she learned I was a Gamma Phi, she told me she just couldn't imagine being anything else, hence dropping out of rush.

So sad because there were so many great chapters at my alma mater. Never learned why she was so fixated on her legacy house, but there you go. She totally robbed herself of a sisterhood experience.

[DaffyKD]

PNM have to remember/learn that whatever goes on behind closed doors during recruitment, stays behind closed doors forever. I know a young lady who went through recruitment years ago. Her mother and grandmother were members of a sorority that was on the woman's campus. Gramma was a charter member of the chapter on the PNM's campus. She "knew" she would be a sister to her grandmother and sister following recruitment. To her surprise, the chapter her grandmother helped to charter dropped her. Luckily, PNM although very disappointed, did not drop out of recruitment and went on to join a chapter that was a perfect fit for her.

DaffyKD

[carnation]

bumping for 2023--good info!

[Cheerio]

Currently, what is the maximum number of chapters a PNM may list on her Formal Recruitment Pref Card? And did the NPC mandate/agree to hold to a max number?