A PNW recruitment

[TriDDDeltgirl]

Black eyeliner:
Niece flat out informed Grandma that she didn’t like this house because there were too many women of Asian descent. Grandma flat out informed Niece that there was too much of her bad attitude in the room.

Birkenstocks:
My house. Apparently the girls of Tri Delta aren’t up to par and our sorority is boring. “Okay.” was my response, Grandma didn’t even bother

Pumpkin spice:
The “horse girls of the row”, apparently they’re a house full of misfits who only got into Pumpkin Spice because they were needed to make quota. Since Pumpkin Spice is a top house at Bama, Niece decided to love them.

Fall Breeze:
The last of her top 8 houses and a top house at Bama. She didn’t like the fact that this house was also supposedly bottom tier but she liked that it was top at Bama. Grandma nudged me and told me to be sure to not tell Niece that DD4 hated being so far from home at Bama.

Pike’s Place:
She didn’t like Pike’s Place. At all. She treated us all to a long list of why she didn’t like them. DD4 and her outrageous demands came to my mind.

Starbucks:
She didn’t like this house on a local or national level and was sure to inform us that her feelings towards them were less than the best.

After the longest day, I thought I’d go on a nice double date with my husband. I got my letters off and my makeup on and decided that since I could see the Space Needle from our apartment, Grandma and I could walk it. What a mistake. I ended up carrying my heels and shuffling along with my feet wrapped in plastic bags. It felt like we’d walked a million miles in the dark.

We got to the Space Needle and sat down, as soon as I sat down, I got a phone call from DS4, “Mom, I don’t know how to get checked in, will you come get me?”, he was all the way in Oregon and the odds of me leaving Seattle were slim to none, he then asked me to use my google maps to help him get to his dorm again. Did I do it? Yes. Date night was cut short as I received yet another call from DS5 who needed help navigating the wild lands of HJGreek.

[GreenBookGirl]

Originally Posted by TriDDDeltgirl

Black eyeliner:
Niece flat out informed Grandma that she didn’t like this house because there were too many women of Asian descent. Grandma flat out informed Niece that there was too much of her bad attitude in the room.

This isn’t a bad attitude, this is racism. I hope this story is fake, because the UW Greek Community is better off without women with these attitudes.

[TriDDDeltgirl]

Originally Posted by GreenBookGirl

This isn’t a bad attitude, this is racism. I hope this story is fake, because the UW Greek Community is better off without women with these attitudes.

Unfortunately it’s not fake, it’s the result of being raised in Deep Texas and having problems with other races and nationalities when confronted with people who are different than you or different than the image that you’ve always expected Greek life to be (or the houses at SMU, USC, or any of the other heavily southern houses where diversity isn’t shown)

When I have a moment to update this, I will. I’m leaving Mexico to head to Belize.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by TriDDDeltgirl

Unfortunately it’s not fake, it’s the result of being raised in Deep Texas and having problems with other races and nationalities when confronted with people who are different than you or different than the image that you’ve always expected Greek life to be (or the houses at SMU, USC, or any of the other heavily southern houses where diversity isn’t shown)

I was raised in Deep Texas. The high schools were majorly multiracial.

[aggieAXO]

I was also raised in “deep”Texas and really find this troubling. What type of people are we raising to think like this? What type of parenting is being done? I am not a parent, don’t want to be, but I feel if my child acted this way her hiney would be red as a beet.

[TriDDDeltgirl]

Originally Posted by carnation

I was raised in Deep Texas. The high schools were majorly multiracial.

She attended a private school where the racism was extreme, I won’t go into detail but some of the things that were said and the words that were used to describe other people were disgusting.

[Sororitysock]

Originally Posted by GreenBookGirl

This isn’t a bad attitude, this is racism. I hope this story is fake, because the UW Greek Community is better off without women with these attitudes.

I think this is a good thing for people to see. It's a very real problem at many schools on the west coast. Even at Cal Berkeley, that bastion of liberalism and political correctness, sororities become "undesirable" when they become "too Asian." The truth hurts, but we need to own it.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Sororitysock

I think this is a good thing for people to see. It's a very real problem at many schools on the west coast. Even at Cal Berkeley, that bastion of liberalism and political correctness, sororities become "undesirable" when they become "too Asian." The truth hurts, but we need to own it.

This.

[TriDDDeltgirl]

Originally Posted by Sororitysock

I think this is a good thing for people to see. It's a very real problem at many schools on the west coast. Even at Cal Berkeley, that bastion of liberalism and political correctness, sororities become "undesirable" when they become "too Asian." The truth hurts, but we need to own it.

It’s huge, I helped out at a west coast chapter of my sorority and I had a friend of mine who had a daughter rushing call me and ask if there was racial diversity I responded that yes, the chapter composed of a lot of different diverse girls and she responded “it’s west coast, I want to know if the chapter is all Asian.”

I helped out at a SMU and I went to visit a friend of mine who is in a different sorority and her daughter, I didn’t see one woman of color at that house.

Niece’s high a chool had an EXTREME problem with racism and most of the girls there had awful attitudes when it came to rushing sororities that weren’t what they’d been in the 70s and 80s when their mothers were members and in the 50s and 60s when their grandmothers were members.

I just was looking at a canadian university’s chapter of a sorority and I did not see one woman of color at all. At some schools, there’s still the token woman of color in a chapter, I’ve written Rec letters for women who are extremely qualified but have still been dropped and I don’t think that it’s because of skin tone, but when I see an all white chapter with maybe 3 Asian women and that’s all the diversity they have, I have to wonder.

So yes, even though I hate to be that person who causes controversy, diversity is still an issue in sororities. I’m sure that all of us saw the Alabama sorority scandal headlines, we’ve seen the recruitment videos, it’s an issue and until we have a solution to that issue, we have a problem.

(I hate to be political. I’m sorry, this is my personal opinion, not the opinion of my sorority)

[panhelrose]

Originally Posted by TriDDDeltgirl

It’s huge, I helped out at a west coast chapter of my sorority and I had a friend of mine who had a daughter rushing call me and ask if there was racial diversity I responded that yes, the chapter composed of a lot of different diverse girls and she responded “it’s west coast, I want to know if the chapter is all Asian.”

I know we're all saying these things because we're hoping that PNMs are not judging our sisters, panhellenic or otherwise, by their race, but we also have to admit that there are PNMs and actives who hold prejudiced and ignorant beliefs about race, even among our own organizations. Hopefully TriDDDeltgirl's niece learns the error in her notions either through recruitment or through her college experiences, and those PNMs and actives who come across this story and see themselves in TriDDDeltgirl's niece realize the error as well.

Either way, we asked TriDDDeltgirl to post her niece's story. She never promised niece would be a sweet, polite PNM. Out of fairness to her and not comparing her children/niece, the stories for DD3 and DD4 show that you can raise two children at the same time in the same manner and still end up with vastly different individuals, so there's no sense in bringing her parenting into this. All children (hopefully) learn their lessons when they're ready to and no amount of parenting will force a child to learn if they're not ready and willing to have the lesson - I say this as someone still learning new things every day myself. Clearly TriDDDeltgirl isn't teaching prejudice in her home. Let's all just enjoy the story!

[carnation]

Originally Posted by TriDDDeltgirl

Black eyeliner:
Niece flat out informed Grandma that she didn’t like this house because there were too many women of Asian descent.