Yale sororities create “creepy guy” list

[33girl]

Good for Theta and Pi Phi? No, not really. They could "flag" a guy for no other reason than that the guy expressed interest and they didn't reciprocate.

If you don't like a lot of members of a fraternity, you just don't mix with the fraternity. You don't single people out for random reasons and expect their brothers to dump them just because you say so. Can you imagine if men did this to women?

Also - "events hosted by the sororities"? That sounds like sororities are holding parties in their houses which is obviously against policies. If they're talking about date parties or formals, a better idea would be to talk to a sister about her questionable taste rather than create a blacklist.

[panhelrose]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Good for Theta and Pi Phi? No, not really. They could "flag" a guy for no other reason than that the guy expressed interest and they didn't reciprocate.

If you don't like a lot of members of a fraternity, you just don't mix with the fraternity. You don't single people out for random reasons and expect their brothers to dump them just because you say so. Can you imagine if men did this to women?

Also - "events hosted by the sororities"? That sounds like sororities are holding parties in their houses which is obviously against policies. If they're talking about date parties or formals, a better idea would be to talk to a sister about her questionable taste rather than create a blacklist.

While there are obvious problems with making this a published list, I disagree with some of these points.

I'll take my chapter, for example. There's a brother of a fraternity with which we're very close (one of their brothers is our sweetheart), but one of the brothers makes sisters very uncomfortable, to the point of tears. Not because of sexual misconduct or "unreciprocated interest," but because of comments he makes about members of the LGBT+ and disability communities. Obviously this is an isolated situation, but I can see this being a reason for such acknowledgement within a chapter.

As for "events hosted by sororities," I read that as things like formals, date parties, etc. Probably not philanthropies, but similar registered events where sisters are in charge of who attends.

[33girl]

That's when you say to the sweetheart "hey Joe, Mark is being a real jagoff with some of the things he's saying. 33girl's mom is in a wheelchair and when he made that crack about all disabled people should be euthanized, it made her extremely upset. He's making some sisters not want to come around the fraternity at all."

If Mark realizes that actual specific humans he knows are being upset by actual specific things he says, that'll help more than sensitivity training or putting his name on a "creep list." And if he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong, then maybe the fraternity will reconsider his fitness for brotherhood. But that's their choice to make. Not a sorority's. If they want to stand behind his disgusting comments and lose the goodwill of an entire sorority for it, that's their choice too.

The difference is you have a specific behavior he's doing and can be pointed out rather than just the vague "he makes me uncomfortable."