Big/Little selection Drama. In need of advice.

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The problem can sometimes be that several new members will want to have the same initiated member as their big for whatever reason- not an option. For our chapter, there was no new member choice in it, they weren't asked at all. (Pledge classes are usually 8-10 girls, though. It's easy enough to pay attention to who is getting along.)

I liken it to PNMs going through recruitment, and thinking that they love a certain chapter after meeting them a few times. Is a New Member really going to know an initiated member after a few coffee dates? Maybe, but not necessarily. I still stand by my argument that people place far too much importance on that relationship- it usually isn't the be-all, end-all that people make it out to be, and I wish that advisors, alumnae, and fraternal education would do a better job of explaining that.