Hey angel, your story is very insightful and relates a little to my personal experiences (although from a male perspective).
I completely agree 100% with what soro6 said and that you should always listen to your heart. Patience is one of the greatest virtues an individual can have.
After I depledged a fraternity just a day within being initiated I was clueless to what I wanted to do. I had so many conflicting feelings towards each fraternity that I ended up deciding to start a new one instead.
Unlike in the US, the greek way of life in Canada is nothing in comparison. I don't think there's a single university in Canada that has a greek student body of more than 5% of the total student population.
The general perception of fraternities and a lot of negative views toward fraternities by many of my friends made this process even more difficult than it is. I figured that by providing a new alternative to an otherwise pitiful greek community is the most I can do.
It's now been almost a year and a half since I've made this decision and our group still hasn't colonized. There were times when I was like, "F#ck this", why am I wasting my time? This $hit is not going to work...I almost threw in the towel on a number of occasions but knew that if i did i would probably regret it the rest of my life. So i perserved, stuck with it, putting up with all the adversity we faced, and are now very close to becoming a new fraternity on campus.
What i've achieved so far required a lot of sacrifice and more than anything else a lot of patience. Seeing other ppl join fraternities after you is not easy but as long as you stay motivated and committed you should be alright.
I only have a year left part-time. I continually get asked by ppl why I'm doing this - not once have I questioned myself or my efforts.
So what I'm trying to say is to not get discouraged. Try to get to know the one sister who dissed you in maybe bridging the gap a bit. Try hard to get to know some of the girls that you get along well with and i'm sure they convince the others to let you in. It doesn't matter how old you are when you join, it's what you do afterwards that counts.
"The more blood and sweat in the battle, the greater the victory."
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