Adjusting Alumnae Relationships

[purpleandpearls]

When I first graduated, the rule in my chapter was that if an alum wanted to attend anything, they needed permission from chapter leadership. More often than not, the requests were from recently graduated members that were going to be in town for the weekend and were staying with another sister and didn't want to have to sit at whoever's apartment while they went to a social. Because most of the chapter already knew this individual, permission was almost always granted.

There wound up being issues and so the chapter changed the rules. Instead of alum having to ask permission to attend events, there are now certain events alum can always attend, like formal and big/little, and certain events they can never attend like socials. Also, whenever there is an event that alum can attend, the chapter does send out notice but it includes the rules that need to be followed.

[DubaiSis]

I thought as an active (and still agree) that once a sister graduates, she really should separate herself from the chapter for 2 years. Especially if she's still on campus for grad school or whatever, it can be hard to make the transition to alumna status if she's continually just around. And it takes a remarkably short period of time before she becomes that creepy old lady who is always coming around.

Find yourself an alumnae association to affiliate with and let the college girls do their thing. Just my opinion of course.

[33girl]

I don't want to out the OP, but that is not how her campus works. For one thing, many of those "creepy" alumnae were not active since before they even set foot in a college classroom.

This is not a situation where you want to throw the baby out with the bathwater.