Mississippi Sorority Recruitment 2015

OleMissnewbie · #1 10-15-2015, 01:56 PM

My sweet daughter recently went through Ole Miss rush. 4.0 and 32 ACT with a couple of national awards for service. We do not live in Mississippi and knew no one from Ole Miss so we were warned that it would be tough. She was accepted into the house she wanted. Theta. She has several cousins that are Theta alums from Duke and Vanderbilt and they were very happy. My sorority of which she is a legacy cut her, but it really just helped her make her choice. She received her bid and everything was great. Until....let the mean spirit behavior commence. Horrible comments (from other girls who got bids from other houses as well as a couple of actives from other sororities) that she is in the "lowest" house on campus and Theta doesn't cut anyone are almost hateful. I'm assuming that these attitudes are not wide spread and that Ole Miss Panhellenic does its best to discourage this behavior? She's kinda feeling like she is in a bigger version of high school where she is the new kid from out of town. Thankfully she is undeterred, and knows how great Theta is and will be for her in the future. We were warned that Ole Miss rush is brutal and were pleasantly surprised that it was not at all. Ole Miss AFTER rush though is a different story.
Wishing all well and blessings on all of our babies!

DeltaBetaBaby · #2 10-15-2015, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by OleMissnewbie

My sweet daughter recently went through Ole Miss rush. 4.0 and 32 ACT with a couple of national awards for service. We do not live in Mississippi and knew no one from Ole Miss so we were warned that it would be tough. She was accepted into the house she wanted. Theta. She has several cousins that are Theta alums from Duke and Vanderbilt and they were very happy. My sorority of which she is a legacy cut her, but it really just helped her make her choice. She received her bid and everything was great. Until....let the mean spirit behavior commence. Horrible comments (from other girls who got bids from other houses as well as a couple of actives from other sororities) that she is in the "lowest" house on campus and Theta doesn't cut anyone are almost hateful. I'm assuming that these attitudes are not wide spread and that Ole Miss Panhellenic does its best to discourage this behavior? She's kinda feeling like she is in a bigger version of high school where she is the new kid from out of town. Thankfully she is undeterred, and knows how great Theta is and will be for her in the future. We were warned that Ole Miss rush is brutal and were pleasantly surprised that it was not at all. Ole Miss AFTER rush though is a different story.
Wishing all well and blessings on all of our babies!

That's a shame, and it's hard to understand what people think they get out of bashing other sororities, especially weeks after recruitment.

It sounds like your daughter knows she has joined an excellent sisterhood, and I hope she has a lifetime of great experiences on her way.

amillionlights · #3 10-15-2015, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by OleMissnewbie

My sweet daughter recently went through Ole Miss rush. 4.0 and 32 ACT with a couple of national awards for service. We do not live in Mississippi and knew no one from Ole Miss so we were warned that it would be tough. She was accepted into the house she wanted. Theta. She has several cousins that are Theta alums from Duke and Vanderbilt and they were very happy. My sorority of which she is a legacy cut her, but it really just helped her make her choice. She received her bid and everything was great. Until....let the mean spirit behavior commence. Horrible comments (from other girls who got bids from other houses as well as a couple of actives from other sororities) that she is in the "lowest" house on campus and Theta doesn't cut anyone are almost hateful. I'm assuming that these attitudes are not wide spread and that Ole Miss Panhellenic does its best to discourage this behavior? She's kinda feeling like she is in a bigger version of high school where she is the new kid from out of town. Thankfully she is undeterred, and knows how great Theta is and will be for her in the future. We were warned that Ole Miss rush is brutal and were pleasantly surprised that it was not at all. Ole Miss AFTER rush though is a different story.
Wishing all well and blessings on all of our babies!

It's all so silly. All groups have weak chapters and strong chapters. It's a shame that your daughter has been confronted with this, but encourage her to stay strong. Although it can be hurtful to hear these things, she has a lifetime of amazing opportunities ahead of her - and that is nothing to be embarrassed of.

msbeta · #4 10-15-2015, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by OleMissnewbie

My sweet daughter recently went through Ole Miss rush. 4.0 and 32 ACT with a couple of national awards for service. We do not live in Mississippi and knew no one from Ole Miss so we were warned that it would be tough. She was accepted into the house she wanted. Theta. She has several cousins that are Theta alums from Duke and Vanderbilt and they were very happy. My sorority of which she is a legacy cut her, but it really just helped her make her choice. She received her bid and everything was great. Until....let the mean spirit behavior commence. Horrible comments (from other girls who got bids from other houses as well as a couple of actives from other sororities) that she is in the "lowest" house on campus and Theta doesn't cut anyone are almost hateful. I'm assuming that these attitudes are not wide spread and that Ole Miss Panhellenic does its best to discourage this behavior? She's kinda feeling like she is in a bigger version of high school where she is the new kid from out of town. Thankfully she is undeterred, and knows how great Theta is and will be for her in the future. We were warned that Ole Miss rush is brutal and were pleasantly surprised that it was not at all. Ole Miss AFTER rush though is a different story.
Wishing all well and blessings on all of our babies!

One of my rec girls pledge Theta, too! She is a super sweet and very smart young lady with a super family. I hope they know one another.
At the end of the day, I hope that your daughter can ignore the chatter and negative comments to focus on the her group. There are girls from our south Mississippi high school in at least 7 of the sororities at Ole Miss. Some of them were legacies but most were just really interested in Greek Life at Ole Miss and the excitement that surrounds that. I think all of them are perfectly happy. The ones that completely drop out of rush because they only wanted a certain chapter are the ones that end up being unhappy. Having said that, I know exactly the kind of attitude of which you speak.

ConfettiCupcake · #5 10-21-2015, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by OleMissnewbie

Horrible comments (from other girls who got bids from other houses as well as a couple of actives from other sororities) that she is in the "lowest" house on campus and blah, blah, blah....

I'm so sorry for your daughter, but this is so typical of some girls who just got to college and can't leave high school behind them. IF (and I mean IF) their were "rankings" and they went 1,2,3..... then the 2s want to be 1s and the 3s want to be 2s and so on and so on. The only happy ones are the ones who figure out that they are where they belong and that they are happy with their new sisters. It doesn't matter what sorority you are in, you will be unhappy until you figure this out.

I think it gets better though after a few weeks or months when the whole recruitment thing gets replaced by bigger things like well, grades.