How to respond to PNM you don't know who wants rec when school doesn't require them?

[33girl]

Did she still have invites last year when she dropped out? More importantly, did she have an invite to your group? It kind of sounds like she's blaming her lack of rush success on not having a full complement of recs when that's not the reason.

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Did she still have invites last year when she dropped out? More importantly, did she have an invite to your group? It kind of sounds like she's blaming her lack of rush success on not having a full complement of recs when that's not the reason.

All she said was that it was a "sudden family issue." No other information. We had a sorority here that re-colonized after our formal recruitment last year, and I had encouraged her to look at them as well. She mentioned nothing of them either, so I don't know if she even checked them out.

[KDCat]

Just tell her straight.

I would say "I'm sorry but I can't give you a recommendation at this point. It is too close to the deadline. Is there anyone that you know personally from church or high school that could give you one?"

[BlueCarnation]

Ugh. She sent me a modeling shot where you can't really see her face and a resume, and told me that she didn't know ANYONE who was in a sorority. I asked for a head shot and she sent me another modeling shot. Then she asked if we could talk on the phone so she could tell me all about herself. Recruitment starts this weekend. I told her that I will write it based on what I have and wished her luck. Sigh...