Mizzou Recruitment

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by NorthernMom

I really don't want to argue. I hate this concept of "top" and "bottom". My daughter is not in what some would say is a "top" house by any stretch. I'm not sure who feels the need to subscribe to this sort of caste system. Just because a house has an overall higher GPA doesn't mean it's tops in everyone's book. And just because a house has a lower GPA point, also doesn't mean it's not desirable to girls. I understand that there are definitely girls who do come with with the "top" and "bottom" mentality. And when the perceived elite chapters drop them, they run for the hills. But again, I don't know that is what was being asked here, and I hate for someone to get jumped on. In the end, fit is not all about elitism for all girls.

If you get through Pref and still don't feel like you could make it work, so be it. Being Greek didn't work out for you and that is disappointing.

If you drop before going through Pref round, I don't have a ton of sympathy for you.

If you drop before preference, then you don't have all of the information available to you. You've met a handful of women in any oneorganization. You still have 1-2 parties and an opportunity to meet some more, if you just take the time to go the parties. We see too many PNMs who are sure that they don't fit with a chapter and then meet their new BFF at the last round before Pref or who go to Pref and end up changing their mind because the Pref party showed them a sisterhood that they didn't fully appreciate before. If you don't hang in there for the whole process, you are short-changing yourself.

[pbear19]

Just a note to my fellow long-time GCers:

Mizzou has a major problem with recruitment retention. Nearly ONE THIRD of all PNMs who registered this year chose to drop out or didn't maximize their options and ended up without a bid.

ONE THIRD. 547 women to be precise.

I am the last person to ever excuse dropping early. It breaks my heart every time, because I see what kind of amazing experience these women are giving up on. But, please know that making a few moms or PNMs feel bad about it after the fact is not going to even scratch the surface of the problem.

Also, the COB opportunities at Mizzou are pretty good, compared to other SEC schools. Do the "top tier" COB? Not really. But a lot of chapters do. Last spring, thanks to some retention issues and (in my personal, unverified opinion) some incorrect reporting of pre-recruitment chapter size, 12 out of 15 chapters either did COB or were eligible to COB. Not all of them did, but it just goes to show that there are potential opportunities.

I am NOT trying to blow smoke up anyone's nether regions. COB is hard. Only a tiny fraction of those 547 women will have a chance. Especially since a number of COB women will not have even signed up for formal recruitment at all, so the pool is bigger than that.

Moms and PNMs, it is very true that you need to accept that the chapters you weren't "comfortable" with are likely to be the ones doing COB at some point this year. Some chapters may take 5 or fewer women in COB. It is not easy, and it is not a guarantee. It is also hard for sophomores to go through recruitment and have better results the second year, although it is not unheard of. Especially if there are significant improvements in grades!!

Stay out of trouble. Stay out of any bad-news scandals, especially this week when everything is a little crazy on campus. Focus on grades. Be a decent human being to every single sorority woman you meet. They do talk amongst themselves and being nice only to ABC and not to XYZ could be a deal-breaker. Register with PHA, but don't think that filling out a form is enough, because it probably isn't. You need to get to know the women in those chapters that invited you back, and decide for yourself if you really want to be greek or not. There is not a bad chapter on this campus.

What happened last week happened, and there is no changing that at this point. Tent talk, peer pressure, etc etc etc are all pretty bad and dropping can often seem like the best choice in the moment. Now that the decision has been made, for good or ill, just focus on moving forward, whether that be as a greek woman (eventually) or unaffiliated.

Off my soapbox. Again, congrats to all who had a successful recruitment week. Best wishes to those interested in COB, I truly hope it works out. I know I have some unanswered PMs and I have not forgotten you!

[NorthernMom]

Sounds like some good, honest and fair advice.