In-law venting thread

[aephi alum]

My husband is currently on the phone with his mother.

He and I have precious little time to spend together these days. I work full-time and my commute recently quadrupled (40 minutes each way - a mostly pleasant drive, but still, that's 80 minutes of commute time + 9 hours at the office, and God help me if the server craps out and I have to stay late and fix it). He runs his own business, and, although he works out of the house, he's on the road a fair bit.

So here we were, relaxing at home on a quiet Sunday afternoon, when the phone rings. It's the monster-in-law. She had some inane question about her computer. And, of course, once she gets her son on the phone, she won't let him go.

AND, my husband insists on putting her on speaker. Her voice is like nails on chalkboard. My eardrums may implode.

She couldn't have called him tomorrow while I'm at work???

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

My husband is currently on the phone with his mother.

He and I have precious little time to spend together these days. I work full-time and my commute recently quadrupled (40 minutes each way - a mostly pleasant drive, but still, that's 80 minutes of commute time + 9 hours at the office, and God help me if the server craps out and I have to stay late and fix it). He runs his own business, and, although he works out of the house, he's on the road a fair bit.

So here we were, relaxing at home on a quiet Sunday afternoon, when the phone rings. It's the monster-in-law. She had some inane question about her computer. And, of course, once she gets her son on the phone, she won't let him go.

AND, my husband insists on putting her on speaker. Her voice is like nails on chalkboard. My eardrums may implode.

She couldn't have called him tomorrow while I'm at work???

Ooooh... that's a RULE at our house. If you are going to have the In-Laws on speaker then you have to take the call somewhere I am not--the bedroom or go outside. We went through this whole "boundary" setting thing. It has not really helped, but it is one rule I am adamant about.

[aephi alum]

The in-laws are flying up from Florida to New York tomorrow.

I have placed an item in my calendar for this Saturday. It reads: Day with the in-laws - KILL ME NOW.

And they are inflicting themselves on us again the following Wednesday evening.

I tolerate them because I love my husband. But MIL thinks she is the matriarch of the family (her mother passed away 3 years ago, and good riddance) and thinks she can control us. Too bad for her that I inherited two stubborn streaks - Polish and Irish - and I won't put up with any of her BS.

But fair is fair. My husband tolerates my father because he loves me. The stick up my father's ass has a stick up its ass. My mother was an amazing woman, and I think my husband genuinely loved her as his MIL, but she has passed away.