Recs

[Sciencewoman]

Unfortunately, not in a tactful way. Don't contact the chapter about it, and I would not risk offending the rec writer. When my daughter went through recruitment two years ago, most of her rec writers let her know they had sent the rec, and several followed up to let her know they had received a thank you/acknowledgement e-mail from the chapter. If your rec writers are women you know personally, they might do that...if you're going through an Alumnae Panhellenic that helps process many recs, I wouldn't expect that level of follow-up.

If you're worried about anyone following through, you might want to ask more than one writer for each sorority. That might give you some peace of mind. Also, you should send each rec writer a thank you note. That might also serve to jog the memory/motivation of the procrastinators.

My daughter joined Pi Beta Phi. Her rec writer told her she was momentarily scared that she had accidentally sent her Pi Phi rec to the Theta house next door, because she received a thank you e-mail from the "Virginia Theta" membership VP and she forgot for a second that Pi Phi names their chapters by state and Greek letter alphabet, in order of founding.