my very disorganized chapter

[stufield]

I don't even pretend to understand many of the characteristics/aspects of sorority life in the USA. But I simply can't comprehend one of the statements in your post: a member of your chapter has to have a certain number of "points" before being eligible to attend the chapter's formal??? Is this for real? If one is an active member of a chapter, how can she (or he, if it were a fraternity) be precluded from attending the chapter's formal, or any other chapter event?

Is this "points" requirement unique to this particular chapter or sorority, or is it actually commonplace or at least not unheard of at other chapters/schools? It seems like sheer nonsense to me.

I would think that if a chapter did have a "point" system, which strikes me as totally ridiculous, attending formal would be one way to accumulate those points. Why, then, would the chapter tell a member that she could not attend because she was deficient in points? It seems contradictory and self-defeating.

Why anyone would even want to attend her chapter's formal if she were being told she did not have enough "points" to attend is an entirely different question, and equally perplexing to me.

[33girl]

Points for formal is very commonplace. It's to weed out the people who just joined a sorority for the fun stuff (formals and mixers) and want to blow off the business and work stuff (meetings, ritual, philanthropy). It's usually set low enough that unless you're a complete slacker you can make the amount.

Which leads me to...OP, did you not have ANY interaction with sisters outside of chapter meetings? Didn't anyone ever mention events to you or ask if you were going? How large is this chapter? Did you try contacting nationals yourself?

[Sen's Revenge]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Points for formal is very commonplace. It's to weed out the people who just joined a sorority for the fun stuff (formals and mixers) and want to blow off the business and work stuff (meetings, ritual, philanthropy). It's usually set low enough that unless you're a complete slacker you can make the amount.

K-12 educators might know this method as PBIS, positive behavior intervention system. Earning your way to a reward as a method of community standards and such. I tried very hard not to say social control. lol

[tcsparky]

Originally Posted by stufield

I don't even pretend to understand many of the characteristics/aspects of sorority life in the USA. But I simply can't comprehend one of the statements in your post: a member of your chapter has to have a certain number of "points" before being eligible to attend the chapter's formal??? Is this for real?rude If one is an active member of a chapter, how can she (or he, if it were a fraternity) be precluded from attending the chapter's formal, or any other chapter event?

Is this "points" requirement unique to this particular chapter or sorority, or is it actually commonplace or at least not unheard of at other chapters/schools? It seems like sheer nonsense to me.-rude

I would think that if a chapter did have a "point" system, which strikes me as totally ridiculous-rude, attending formal would be one way to accumulate those points. Why, then, would the chapter tell a member that she could not attend because she was deficient in points? It seems contradictory and self-defeating.

Why anyone would even want to attend her chapter's formal if she were being told she did not have enough "points" to attend is an entirely different question, and equally perplexing to me.

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