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Old 11-25-2014, 12:46 AM
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Interestingly, there are a whole host of reasons you probably shouldn't host pledge activities at your house...but this is a bad one.
I'm guessing he's at a school that doesn't have large (or official) fraternity houses or big pledge classes. We had meetings at my pledge mom's house a couple times. We weren't doing anything more than reading out of a pledge manual and taking quizzes, so I honestly fail to see the problem. It's a better and more private environment than a student center or classroom.
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Old 11-25-2014, 10:16 AM
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I've never been popular, and have experienced this same situation countless times. You can continue to let it frustrate you (which is ridiculously tempting) or you can move on and find a different way to contribute. Take on a Little, go out of your way to make the new members feel welcome, offer to help them study for their tests, etc. - without stepping on toes (which WILL make it worse).
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Old 11-25-2014, 11:45 AM
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I'm guessing he's at a school that doesn't have large (or official) fraternity houses or big pledge classes. We had meetings at my pledge mom's house a couple times. We weren't doing anything more than reading out of a pledge manual and taking quizzes, so I honestly fail to see the problem. It's a better and more private environment than a student center or classroom.
You're right. I was thinking about housed chapters, and wondering just what they'd be doing off campus that they couldn't do in the house.
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Old 11-26-2014, 12:56 PM
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We don't have Greek houses, but students can apply in groups to try and get a house owned by the college. This is how the Greek groups on campus try to get a house. I happen to have a house with a large basement, and this is why the Fraternity uses it for just about everything

I didn't like how some of the actives were jerks to me during the pledging process, so I made a promise to myself that I would never be mean to a pledge. I always told them where I was, I was always kind to them, and I did in fact help a number of them out on occasion with their homework and Fraternity lesson studying. This semester, I heard that the pledges held me in really high regard, especially my little brother, and that made me incredibly happy to learn of. Thus, I do not think they didn't pick me because my attitude wasn't in the right place.

Now that it has passed by more, it still hurts to think about what happened. What's in the past though is now in the past, and I can't change what has happened. I'll still continue to be nice to pledges and do everything I can to make sure they have a smooth education experience. Given that said, due to how popularity in most cases severely swayed the vote, I am now highly discouraged from giving it my all in my Fraternity, mainly because popularity would win out over hard work, good goals, and qualifications. I do know there are places where these things pay off, such as the professional business environment I'm going into, but my Fraternity is not one of those places at this moment.
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Old 11-26-2014, 04:54 PM
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This semester, I heard that the pledges held me in really high regard, especially my little brother, and that made me incredibly happy to learn of. Thus, I do not think they didn't pick me because my attitude wasn't in the right place.
I would like you to do EVERYTHING to show that you are worthy of being held in the high regard of this class. Do not give them a single reason to question or change their opinion of you. Show that YOU are the bigger man and keep a positive attitude about your fraternity. Your actions will change your attitude.
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