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[33girl]

Addendum, for those who will say "why didn't you just give them bids right after formal and integrate them into the fall class?"

Think about the state of mind of these bidless women. They are shellshocked. They have just gone through a week or two with NOTHING to focus on but rush and failed. The last thing they want to hear about is a group that didn't make an impression or made a bad one (even if the girls themselves are nice).

After a month or two, when they've actually gotten to know Greeks and how the system works outside of rush, they may be a little more receptive to getting to know that "unimpressive" group. People need to heal. You wouldn't recommend someone run out and sign up for eharmony the minute the ink is dry on her divorce.

[ASTalumna06]

I agree with what 33girl is saying. A lot of you are clutching your pearls, but you're doing it from huge houses on large campuses with competitive recruitments. You think that waiting a year and a half is detrimental to a girl ever joining a chapter, but think about this: What's the typical recruitment situation on your campus? I'm willing to bet that for the most part, girls clamor for spots in formal recruitment, some are dropped or drop out themselves, and those girls contemplate whether or not they should go through recruitment the following year. The girls who received bids and dropped have to wait a year. No harm, no foul. A year is a year.

Now put yourself on a smaller campus where no recs are required and COB is done on the regular. Recruitment events aren't about 15 minute conversations and bumping groups, but about lunches out and study groups and getting to know someone in "normal" situations. Potential members spend time with sisters and are essentially brought into the chapter in every way possible, except formally through a bid.

Then... they receive a formal invitation to join. They spend days, then weeks, with the chapter... And then they drop. Two months later, they're going through formal recruitment, joining another chapter.

Does that sound OK to you? Does that also have you clutching your pearls?

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Addendum, for those who will say "why didn't you just give them bids right after formal and integrate them into the fall class?"

Think about the state of mind of these bidless women. They are shellshocked. They have just gone through a week or two with NOTHING to focus on but rush and failed. The last thing they want to hear about is a group that didn't make an impression or made a bad one (even if the girls themselves are nice).

After a month or two, when they've actually gotten to know Greeks and how the system works outside of rush, they may be a little more receptive to getting to know that "unimpressive" group. People need to heal. You wouldn't recommend someone run out and sign up for eharmony the minute the ink is dry on her divorce.

THis is the post of hers I am talking about.

[ASTalumna06]

Ah, ok.

So… we're assuming that a girl went through formal (let's say in the fall), didn't receive a bid, then received a bid in the spring through COB, pledged for a few weeks, then dropped. She would then have to wait for a year and a half. Correct?