I suicided

[als463]

Originally Posted by USCmtg

I suicided because I absolutely did not want to be in the other sorority. The other one made me think that I was definitley getting a bid by what they said. However I got dropped today. I know that I can't get a snap bid because I suicided but what's the likelihood of me getting a bid during COB?

I'm pretty certain every chapter there made quota. Every chapter at this university is amazing and I find it pretty sad that you felt you were "too good" to be in one of these sororities. I can also tell you that this campus does so well that they rarely have COB events in the spring. In fact, for the chapters that choose to COB, they usually only take a handful of (meaning like 5) ladies. Next time, you should give EVERY chapter a chance. I mean, that "other sorority" was willing to consider you.

[KDCat]

The only way to know for sure if there will be any open recruitment is to contact your Greek Life office and ask. If they have a list, put your name on the list.

In the mean time, pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get involved on campus. There are other organizations and activities that you can do. Your school is a big place with a lot of wonderful people and wonderful things to do. Go find them.

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by als463

I'm pretty certain every chapter there made quota. Every chapter at this university is amazing and I find it pretty sad that you felt you were "too good" to be in one of these sororities. I can also tell you that this campus does so well that they rarely have COB events in the spring. In fact, for the chapters that choose to COB, they usually only take a handful of (meaning like 5) ladies. Next time, you should give EVERY chapter a chance. I mean, that "other sorority" was willing to consider you.

I usually keep my mouth shut, but I find it rather annoying that you feel the need to comment on almost every post about a woman not wanting to be a member of a certain sorority for whatever reason and attack her for thinking she was "too good" for that sorority.

Not thinking that you would fit in or not wanting to be a part of a certain chapter doesn't mean that you believe you are "too good" for that sorority. Sure, there are women who think they are "too good" for lower-tier groups but that is not always the case. For what it's worth, when I went through recruitment there were a couple of chapters that were considered very "top tier" that I personally didn't feel like I would fit in with at all - so it's not always about feeling "too good" for a chapter.

Every woman's situation is different and every woman going through recruitment needs to do what is right for her. In my opinion, it's better to suicide if you only want a bid from one chapter and would decline a bid from another chapter because then you're not taking a spot away from a girl who would love to be in the chapter you're not interested in. Quit being so harsh - you don't know anyone's particular situation and this poster didn't provide us with enough information to start drawing conclusions.

OP, actions have consequences. I'm sorry that recruitment didn't work out the way you wanted it to, and I wish you the best of luck in your college career.

[PinkSkyAtNight]

Originally Posted by maconmagnolia

I usually keep my mouth shut, but I find it rather annoying that you feel the need to comment on almost every post about a woman not wanting to be a member of a certain sorority for whatever reason and attack her for thinking she was "too good" for that sorority.

Not thinking that you would fit in or not wanting to be a part of a certain chapter doesn't mean that you believe you are "too good" for that sorority. Sure, there are women who think they are "too good" for lower-tier groups but that is not always the case. For what it's worth, when I went through recruitment there were a couple of chapters that were considered very "top tier" that I personally didn't feel like I would fit in with at all - so it's not always about feeling "too good" for a chapter.

Every woman's situation is different and every woman going through recruitment needs to do what is right for her. In my opinion, it's better to suicide if you only want a bid from one chapter and would decline a bid from another chapter because then you're not taking a spot away from a girl who would love to be in the chapter you're not interested in. Quit being so harsh - you don't know anyone's particular situation and this poster didn't provide us with enough information to start drawing conclusions.

OP, actions have consequences. I'm sorry that recruitment didn't work out the way you wanted it to, and I wish you the best of luck in your college career.

Agree with Macon Magnolia. Generally speaking, I think most people who SIP aren't being open minded.... but there are exceptions! When I went through recruitment, I had a friend who SIP'd because the other chapter on her list was home to her ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend, and it was an uncomfortable situation for her. I thought it was very strange that they invited my friend back, but she was a legacy and I had the sense that the chapter wasn't able to release her based on their return rates. Nonetheless, my friend SIP'd, and I thought she had a pretty good reason.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by PinkSkyAtNight

Nonetheless, my friend SIP'd, and I thought she had a pretty good reason.

Again, this depends hugely on chapter size. At a school where the NM classes alone are 100+ women, I'd tell a PNM to suck it up.

[als463]

Originally Posted by maconmagnolia

I usually keep my mouth shut, but I find it rather annoying that you feel the need to comment on almost every post about a woman not wanting to be a member of a certain sorority for whatever reason and attack her for thinking she was "too good" for that sorority.

Not thinking that you would fit in or not wanting to be a part of a certain chapter doesn't mean that you believe you are "too good" for that sorority. Sure, there are women who think they are "too good" for lower-tier groups but that is not always the case. For what it's worth, when I went through recruitment there were a couple of chapters that were considered very "top tier" that I personally didn't feel like I would fit in with at all - so it's not always about feeling "too good" for a chapter.

Every woman's situation is different and every woman going through recruitment needs to do what is right for her. In my opinion, it's better to suicide if you only want a bid from one chapter and would decline a bid from another chapter because then you're not taking a spot away from a girl who would love to be in the chapter you're not interested in. Quit being so harsh - you don't know anyone's particular situation and this poster didn't provide us with enough information to start drawing conclusions.

OP, actions have consequences. I'm sorry that recruitment didn't work out the way you wanted it to, and I wish you the best of luck in your college career.

I don't buy it. The OP's university had a quota of something like 130 new members. These are huge chapters. I am aware of what chapters struggle and what chapters don't. In chapters of 300+ women, using the excuse that you "didn't feel comfortable" is nothing more than lip-service. If you can't find someone in a chapter of 300+ women to befriend, maybe the problem isn't with those other chapters you didn't connect with. Each of these organizations have great women in them and to suicide at a major SEC school where girls can easily get cut completely, means you are willing to take a big risk. She should have really thought of the outcomes. Would you rather be a member of XYZ or not be Greek at all? We aren't talking about a school where being Greek is no big deal. We are talking about a major SEC school where Greek life is huge. She rolled the dice and she lost. I feel no sympathy.

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by als463

I don't buy it. The OP's university had a quota of something like 130 new members. These are huge chapters. I am aware of what chapters struggle and what chapters don't. In chapters of 300+ women, using the excuse that you "didn't feel comfortable" is nothing more than lip-service. If you can't find someone in a chapter of 300+ women to befriend, maybe the problem isn't with those other chapters you didn't connect with. Each of these organizations have great women in them and to suicide at a major SEC school where girls can easily get cut completely, means you are willing to take a big risk. She should have really thought of the outcomes. Would you rather be a member of XYZ or not be Greek at all? We aren't talking about a school where being Greek is no big deal. We are talking about a major SEC school where Greek life is huge. She rolled the dice and she lost. I feel no sympathy.

Maybe the woman makes her choice because she doesn't want a small handful of people she clicks with.

This is her choice, and not one of us has the right to chastise her for her choice, rather only to remind her that choices have consequences. Second-guessing or putting her down is petty.

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by als463

I don't buy it. The OP's university had a quota of something like 130 new members. These are huge chapters. I am aware of what chapters struggle and what chapters don't. In chapters of 300+ women, using the excuse that you "didn't feel comfortable" is nothing more than lip-service. If you can't find someone in a chapter of 300+ women to befriend, maybe the problem isn't with those other chapters you didn't connect with. Each of these organizations have great women in them and to suicide at a major SEC school where girls can easily get cut completely, means you are willing to take a big risk. She should have really thought of the outcomes. Would you rather be a member of XYZ or not be Greek at all? We aren't talking about a school where being Greek is no big deal. We are talking about a major SEC school where Greek life is huge. She rolled the dice and she lost. I feel no sympathy.

You don't need to feel sympathy for her, but you don't need to be a judgmental ass towards every single girl who comes on here saying she doesn't feel comfortable in a certain chapter. You do not know her reasoning and you have no place to make judgment.

[als463]

Originally Posted by maconmagnolia

You don't need to feel sympathy for her, but you don't need to be a judgmental ass towards every single girl who comes on here saying she doesn't feel comfortable in a certain chapter. You do not know her reasoning and you have no place to make judgment.

Oh, the irony in telling others not to be judgmental while at the same time being judgmental.