University of Texas Recruitment 2014 - Page 6

Nanners52674 · #1 08-25-2014, 08:05 PM

Does UT post bid lists?

sassafrass11 · #2 08-25-2014, 11:23 PM

PNMDAD, I hope your daughter had a successful recruitment. I hope she has a house. would you share her final home?

Texasdancer · #3 08-26-2014, 01:53 AM

I went through recruitment at UT, however I withdrew right before pref. I was left with only one invitation to a chapter that I could not see myself in at all. This was such a heartbreaking week for me, and I truly do not understand the way that recruitment works. I had recs for every single chapter, and I was even a legacy to one. My high school gpa was good, and I was involved in many activities with a respectable resume. I don't understand how I fell through the cracks like I did. I may try to rush again next fall, but I've heard it is even tougher as a sophomore. All I know is that it was a really hard and emotional week and the cuts were heavy

snowflakemom · #4 08-26-2014, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Texasdancer

I went through recruitment at UT, however I withdrew right before pref. I was left with only one invitation to a chapter that I could not see myself in at all. This was such a heartbreaking week for me, and I truly do not understand the way that recruitment works. I had recs for every single chapter, and I was even a legacy to one. My high school gpa was good, and I was involved in many activities with a respectable resume. I don't understand how I fell through the cracks like I did. I may try to rush again next fall, but I've heard it is even tougher as a sophomore. All I know is that it was a really hard and emotional week and the cuts were heavy

You didn't slip through the cracks, you had one house left.

Katmandu · #5 08-26-2014, 07:22 AM

TexasDancer, I'm sorry you had a tough week. The reality is that all of the PNMs at a place like Texas, Ole Miss, Auburn, OU, fill in the blank, are smart, poised, active, connected and typically attractive and well groomed and thanks to mom and dad, well dressed. The pool is just has a lot of parity.

You didn't fall through the cracks. You had a chapter that was interested in you. For whatever reason, you weren't interested in them. Rushing as a soph is even more tough. Texas is a big place and there are a lot of clubs, activities and people who aren't Greek. I hope you find some great opportunities.

ETA...pref is such a game changer that you won't find a lot of sympathy for dropping out before Pref.

Titchou · #6 08-26-2014, 07:50 AM

Someone wanted YOU and had YOU on their bid list. Too bad that didn't mean much to you. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's true. Have you ever had a guy break up with you? Know how that felt? That's how they feel about you now.

Nanners52674 · #7 08-26-2014, 08:03 AM

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Someone wanted YOU and had YOU on their bid list. Too bad that didn't mean much to you. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's true. Have you ever had a guy break up with you? Know how that felt? That's how they feel about you now.

This! And they remember it, I think often girls think in a big recruitment if they drop out no one notices in a sense. But they do, that chapter knows you decided to drop out rather than give them a chance and if you think the chapters don't talk to each about this stuff, you're wrong.

Texasdancer · #8 08-26-2014, 12:45 PM

It did mean something to me that I was on their bid list. I had an incredibly open mind the whole week and I would have been so happy in any of the houses but by this time in the week I was emotionally drained and I absolutely knew in my heart that this wasn't the house for me. Maybe I won't try to rush again next year if it's so difficult and if all the houses are thinking terrible things about me.

FSUZeta · #9 08-26-2014, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Texasdancer

It did mean something to me that I was on their bid list. I had an incredibly open mind the whole week and I would have been so happy in any of the houses but by this time in the week I was emotionally drained and I absolutely knew in my heart that this wasn't the house for me. Maybe I won't try to rush again next year if it's so difficult and if all the houses are thinking terrible things about me.

Why would the houses be thinking terrible things about you?

KDCat · #10 08-26-2014, 01:03 PM

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Why would the houses be thinking terrible things about you?

Someone on the thread told her that if you drop all the houses will gossip about you for dropping and think badly of you for it.

FSUZeta · #11 08-26-2014, 03:16 PM

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Someone on the thread told her that if you drop all the houses will gossip about you for dropping and think badly of you for it.

Thanks KDCat. I didn't remember that. I would bet money that once a girl drops out of recruitment few sorority members will remember her or think about her. There are too many PNMs remaining, and too much to do to get ready for the next set of parties to remember all the girls who they either didn't invite back, or who drop out of recruitment entirely. And even the sorority that had invited the OP to prefs. are probably to busy with their new members and school to think about "the one that got away."

KDCat · #12 08-26-2014, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Texasdancer

It did mean something to me that I was on their bid list. I had an incredibly open mind the whole week and I would have been so happy in any of the houses but by this time in the week I was emotionally drained and I absolutely knew in my heart that this wasn't the house for me. Maybe I won't try to rush again next year if it's so difficult and if all the houses are thinking terrible things about me.

You know what? It is emotionally draining to go through recruitment and it's really easy to get down about stuff. If I were you, I would go find stuff to do on campus that isn't Greek Life. There's a ton of wonderful stuff at UT -Austin and lots of new friends to make and a wonderful 4 years ahead of you. Go have fun. Study hard. Make friends. Get involved on campus.

You make decisions about recruitment for 2015 later.

MaryPoppins · #13 08-26-2014, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Texasdancer

It did mean something to me that I was on their bid list. I had an incredibly open mind the whole week and I would have been so happy in any of the houses but by this time in the week I was emotionally drained and I absolutely knew in my heart that this wasn't the house for me. Maybe I won't try to rush again next year if it's so difficult and if all the houses are thinking terrible things about me.

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Originally Posted by KDCat

You know what? It is emotionally draining to go through recruitment and it's really easy to get down about stuff. If I were you, I would go find stuff to do on campus that isn't Greek Life. There's a ton of wonderful stuff at UT -Austin and lots of new friends to make and a wonderful 4 years ahead of you. Go have fun. Study hard. Make friends. Get involved on campus.

You make decisions about recruitment for 2015 later.

KDCat is spot on. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get involved. In fact the best thing for you right now to get involved with helping someone else. Look for campus opportunities to give of yourself. The closer to the person helped the better.

It's true the house that invited you to Pref may be saddened and/or even offended by you dropping out. Or they may not. Doesn't really matter at the moment. Make friends that make you happy. Worry about recruitment a different day.

Texasdancer · #14 08-26-2014, 01:41 PM

Thanks y'all. I appreciate all the advice. I'm still kinda bummed but I'm moving forward

Katmandu · #15 08-26-2014, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Texasdancer

It did mean something to me that I was on their bid list. I had an incredibly open mind the whole week and I would have been so happy in any of the houses but by this time in the week I was emotionally drained and I absolutely knew in my heart that this wasn't the house for me. Maybe I won't try to rush again next year if it's so difficult and if all the houses are thinking terrible things about me.

Texasdancer, it is an incredibly emotional time and lack of sleep, heat, inevitable tent talk, a feeling that this is the most important thing in the world and a thousand women with hyper emotions takes a toll, especially when you are away from home and starting something new. No one is telling you not to try next year or next spring if opportunities open up. You will know when it comes if you should put yourself out there again. Not being in a sorority means that other opportunities will open up that you wouldn't have had time for otherwise. Get out, meet people, hold your head high and have fun. The mom in me says, "not tooooo much fun".