Should I drop my sorority?

[SoCalGirl]

How long were you away from school? If it was less than a year, which is the impression I'm getting, you may have automatically reverted back to active status.

You need to speak to you President, VP, or whoever can confirm, to know what your status is at this point. If you're still alum status, find out if you even have to do anything more. In my own sorority, if you've been gone more than a year you can keep alum status and no longer be part of the chapter even if your back on campus. I get the feeling that would be ideal for you.


Whether or not you should drop your sorority is complicated.

How many years do you have left in school?
Are you really over your medical (mental) condition?
Is there anyone at all in the chapter that you have a friendship with on any level?


To be blunt, I get the impression that you're still dealing with some mental health issues (extreme stress, depression, whatever it really is) and dropping your chapter could cause you to become even more isolated. But, staying could also cause you stress and become more isolated.


Do you have other activities, connections and friendships outside of the sorority? Do you have a peer support system of any kind? If not, I want to encourage you to get that in place ASAP. You'll probably need therapy too.


Now, your sisters that are shunning you. They're lame. They're also normal. The vast of the majority does not understand "mental breakdowns". The vast of the majority also interprets others behavior in relation only to their own feelings. They're not mental health experts so they're not going to understand that your breakdown was minimally about them and certainly wasn't a way for you to intentionally make them look bad. Please forgive them.

[andthen]

I echo what the other women have posted. You need to find out what your status is are you active and are expected to pay dues to that chapter or are you still on inactive status. If you were granted early alumnae status, then you really shouldn't have any expectation to participate or be apart of that collegiate chapter.

It sounds like that perhaps you'd be better off going to early alumnae status if your sorority allows you to do so. Again you'd need to check with the appropriate member of your sorority to determine if this is an option. If early alumnae status is available to you, then consider trying to get involved with an alumnae chapter if there is on near your campus.

It sounds like your situation is complicated with regard to your mental health issues. Above anything else you need to take care of yourself and get to a place of wellness. Unfortunately if you said or did something disparaging to your sorority and depending on the degree of how this took place, yes you may have alienated yourself even more from the collegiate chapter. With life comes experience, and I would guess that maybe your sorority sisters never encountered such a thing before, so I'm sure they may not understand what to do, or even how to act around you.

I wish you the best and hope you are able to get things clarified and make the best decision for your health and well-being.