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Originally Posted by Iu mom
No. I know some will say that's her own fault then but the truth is having been exposed to greek life her whole life she wants the experience that includes living in a house. I was a founder of my chapter and graduated never living in a house and although I love my sisters it was NOT the same experience and my daughter knows that because I've talked about that forever. So as unpopular as that is to those either in an in-housed chapter it is based on experience that I speak. College is truly more than just what you learn in a classroom and I believe that living in a sorority house is a huge educational experience - that said my daughter maximized til the end had enough to choose from after 12 to pref 3 housed houses just didn't work out for her.
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I was a member of a housed chapter at another Big Ten university, but never lived in. I commuted from home (about ten miles) because my parents were not willing to pay for housing although they paid for all of my education otherwise. I was chapter president twice (with a special dispensation to live out from our national executive board - not the norm), a Greek Week co-chair, university homecoming overall co-chair, and active in many other honor societies and groups on campus.
Your college experience is what you make of it. Living at home did not ruin my college experience. I was at the house more than some of the women who lived in. I ate there often. I slept over at times. I developed many wonderful friendships with the women in my chapter that continue to this day.
I know that IU is a different place, but to choose to not be Greek over being in an unhoused chapter is crazy IMHO. I will say this. It takes courage and a certain amount of self-confidence to buck the system and be willing to do something different than everyone else. Some women are able to do that and some aren't.
But I have no sympathy for anyone who laments not being Greek when they weren't willing to give every chapter a chance, especially if it is the unhoused chapters.
Maybe it will work out for your daughter eventually. Or maybe she needs to reevaluate her options and ask which is more important - being Greek or living in a sorority house. She may have to choose. If she waits and does formal recruitment again next year and doesn't get in, she'll have lost out on a full year of being Greek at that point and may not get another chance.
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