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01-22-2014, 09:51 PM
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I was the one who mentioned that an active at AXO told my daughter they were allowing seniors to live out. This was during 21 party. It was just one person telling one person. It could have been misinterpreted. Or as silver_blue said, maybe that didn't impact their quota (however it is determined...).
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01-22-2014, 09:53 PM
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Originally Posted by stbemtpynest
I was the one who mentioned that an active at AXO told my daughter they were allowing seniors to live out. This was during 21 party. It was just one person telling one person. It could have been misinterpreted. Or as silver_blue said, maybe that didn't impact their quota (however it is determined...).
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It depends when they changed the policy, too. If they just changed it last semester, then it was probably too late for the current juniors to find houses/apartments for their senior year (they go FAST). Plus, even though AXO and others are allowing senior live outs, members of chapters like that might not want to be in the first senior live out class. Maybe it'll have more of an impact next year.
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01-22-2014, 10:03 PM
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It depends when they changed the policy, too. If they just changed it last semester, then it was probably too late for the current juniors to find houses/apartments for their senior year (they go FAST). Plus, even though AXO and others are allowing senior live outs, members of chapters like that might not want to be in the first senior live out class. Maybe it'll have more of an impact next year.
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It can't be finding houses/apartments that's the issue. Trust me, my daughter and her other friends with no bids are looking at quite a few in the next few days. I believe it is probably more of a transition thing and the impact will be felt in future years. At least it is a step in the right direction and hopefully more chapters will follow suit.
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01-22-2014, 10:35 PM
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The "number shaming" in this thread needs to STOP. Membership selection is still membership selection and sororities still have the prerogative to take quota/bid up to total, take NO women at all, or do something in between. That prerogative doesn't disappear because it's IU. We have no idea why chapters took the size classes they took. So quit.
Also, I don't think comparing this to Alabama is appropriate. The women in Alabama were bucking something that's not just particular to their school.
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01-22-2014, 10:36 PM
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The "number shaming" in this thread needs to STOP. Membership selection is still membership selection and sororities still have the prerogative to take quota/bid up to total, take NO women at all, or do something in between. That prerogative doesn't disappear because it's IU. We have no idea why chapters took the size classes they took. So quit.
Also, I don't think comparing this to Alabama is appropriate. The women in Alabama were bucking something that's not just particular to their school.
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We know exactly why they took the numbers they did: because that's the number of beds they'll have in their houses next year. "Number shaming" wouldn't exist if all groups went to a normal quota system. I think ALL of them have to do it to make it work, though.
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01-22-2014, 11:09 PM
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Shame
The "number shaming" in this thread needs to STOP. Membership selection is still membership selection and sororities still have the prerogative to take quota/bid up to total, take NO women at all, or do something in between. That prerogative doesn't disappear because it's IU. We have no idea why chapters took the size classes they took. So quit.
The real "shame" here is that the sororities know that the current system demoralizes young women and destroys their self esteem and they don't care. They prefer exclusivity. They should take a look at their own recruiting material and see that they are values based organizations that are meant to uplift women. They are not fulfilling their own mission. That is the shame. Just because something is "their prerogative" doesn't make it right.
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01-22-2014, 11:20 PM
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The real "shame" here is that the sororities know that the current system demoralizes young women and destroys their self esteem and they don't care. They prefer exclusivity. They should take a look at their own recruiting material and see that they are values based organizations that are meant to uplift women. They are not fulfilling their own mission. That is the shame. Just because something is "their prerogative" doesn't make it right.
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Thank you. Most of the women entered the process with excitement, high hopes and enthusiasm. Too, too many were turned away.
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01-22-2014, 11:21 PM
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^^^^you are completely missing my point.
My point is that this or that group is being criticized for taking too few women. With the current system, they're doing what they're supposed to do. I doubt that ZTA just decided this week to allow senior live-outs and compel the chapter to take more members than the norm for the current system. I mean people are acting like these chapters should have woken up today and changed everything because of a thread on Greek Chat. This rush was a mess because of the missed party date and the time to think about changes is when everyone is calmed down from rush, NOT in the middle of it.
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01-22-2014, 11:22 PM
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Originally Posted by suzy88
The real "shame" here is that the sororities know that the current system demoralizes young women and destroys their self esteem and they don't care. They prefer exclusivity. They should take a look at their own recruiting material and see that they are values based organizations that are meant to uplift women. They are not fulfilling their own mission. That is the shame. Just because something is "their prerogative" doesn't make it right.
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I understand that people are upset. I am so sorry that there are women who did not get bids.
However, it is quite the accusation to put on 18-22 year olds to say that they are "destroying and demoralizing young women." We've said in here before that this is likely a university issue, not something that the women themselves can change.
Again, I get that folks are upset. But no collegian goes into recruitment thinking "yes, let's DESTROY some self-esteem!"
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01-22-2014, 11:31 PM
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In no greek system except for one, do all women who register have happy outcomes or self determine their ending. In every system, there are heartbreaks and bad outcomes. But ascribing deliberate malice, using loaded words, such as "bullying", and "hazing" is going too far in my opinion. Most people agree this particular system is flawed, but even if changed there will still be girls who go bidless or feel hurt, and sororities still have the right to invite, not invite, and rank and select members according to their own reasons.
I would be interested in knowing how many of the bidless women maximized their options and how many left off one or more chnpters from their final card. Maybe none, but I suspect more than a few.
It was striking to me how much all of the new members looked alike....really, really, alike.
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01-22-2014, 11:39 PM
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Why?
Why do we want our daughters to rush at IU? I've been looking at the threads here and trying to figure out the process because my daughter wants to rush next year there. Given that this has been going on for years and doesn't seem to be getting any better why should we encourage our daughters to rush here? It must be a good experience for those lucky enough to get in but given what it does to so many women emotionally it appears to border on abuse....I know I'll get slammed for that but that is my perception on the outside looking in. Why does the University allow its students to be treated this way? I hear people saying the university has no say in it but can't the administration say....open up to more students or leave? No offense to all the wonderful sorority women on this site as there appear to be many. But perhaps IU would be better off without a Greek system if they are so against change? Let the tomatoe throwing begin. My daughter will do as she wants but I am re-evaluating my support. Any other University I would say go for it, but I'm struggling to justify my support of joining an organization that not only allows this to happen but structures it to ensure it happens. I know this isn't a popular view but I think you can all relate to my position. Thank you.
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01-22-2014, 11:00 PM
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Originally Posted by 33girl
The "number shaming" in this thread needs to STOP. Membership selection is still membership selection and sororities still have the prerogative to take quota/bid up to total, take NO women at all, or do something in between. That prerogative doesn't disappear because it's IU. We have no idea why chapters took the size classes they took. So quit.
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Take NO women at all - please.
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We know exactly why they took the numbers they did: because that's the number of beds they'll have in their houses next year.
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Agreed!
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