Indiana University 2014 Recruitment

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by Sigmapsimom

Exactly - they are ALL unhoused. If all or even half the chapters did not have houses, it would not feel that way. It's the culture at IU and you should not compare it to your campus.

My university did not have sorority houses either, but we lived together on a dorm floor that the university put aside for us, hence "our house."

If you know this isn't true, you shouldn't be lamenting your daughter getting pref invitations to chapters without houses. She may be disappointed, but you know that she can have a good experience in an unhoused group.

I'm sorry for your daughter and the other PNMs. The system at IU is painful.

[Sigmapsimom]

Originally Posted by KDCat

If you know this isn't true, you shouldn't be lamenting your daughter getting pref invitations to chapters without houses. She may be disappointed, but you know that she can have a good experience in an unhoused group.

I'm sorry for your daughter and the other PNMs. The system at IU is painful.

Thank you. I wish it was different. Lamenting isn't the right word. I am angry at a system that intentionally disenfranchises hundreds of girls. I was upset and concerned about it even before recruitment, but yes now it's personal unfortunately, so I am seeing the damage done first hand.

I can't really compare my experience with the IU unhoused sororities because we did live together on campus. It wasn't a traditional house, but we were together on our dorm floor, were given chapter rooms and decorating freedom by our university. Being together was essential to the experience. It was also the norm on my campus. Each campus is unique.

So you're right in a sense that it's not the "house" that makes the sorority close, but having that common place to go to and hang out, day after day, whether it be in a house or a dorm is a good thing.

[cinder1965]

Originally Posted by Sigmapsimom

Thank you. I wish it was different. Lamenting isn't the right word. I am angry at a system that intentionally disenfranchises hundreds of girls. I was upset and concerned about it even before recruitment, but yes now it's personal unfortunately, so I am seeing the damage done first hand.

I can't really compare my experience with the IU unhoused sororities because we did live together on campus. It wasn't a traditional house, but we were together on our dorm floor, were given chapter rooms and decorating freedom by our university. Being together was essential to the experience. It was also the norm on my campus. Each campus is unique.

So you're right in a sense that it's not the "house" that makes the sorority close, but having that common place to go to and hang out, day after day, whether it be in a house or a dorm is a good thing.

I am so sorry for your daughter......it makes me very sad. I went through IU rush last year with my step daughter and it was brutal....she ended up very happy in the house she wanted but I have emphasized to her as much as possible how fortunate she was.....

[Sigmapsimom]

Originally Posted by cinder1965

I am so sorry for your daughter......it makes me very sad. I went through IU rush last year with my step daughter and it was brutal....she ended up very happy in the house she wanted but I have emphasized to her as much as possible how fortunate she was.....

Thank you for your sentiment.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Sigmapsimom

I can't really compare my experience with the IU unhoused sororities because we did live together on campus. It wasn't a traditional house, but we were together on our dorm floor, were given chapter rooms and decorating freedom by our university. Being together was essential to the experience. It was also the norm on my campus. Each campus is unique.

So you're right in a sense that it's not the "house" that makes the sorority close, but having that common place to go to and hang out, day after day, whether it be in a house or a dorm is a good thing.

The school that I went to didn't have chapter houses. However, we had an "unofficial house" off campus where we always had at least 4 girls living, and anyone could go in and out. We also had an apartment on campus with the same set-up.

I know this stings right now, but if your daughter ends up in an unhoused chapter, it won't be the end of the world. The sisters will find ways to hang out with each other (and probably already have). Life is full of disappointments and if your daughter's only disappointment is that she won't live in a sorority house, things could be worse.

What she should focus on is whether or not she wants to be a part of a sisterhood. If not having a house is a deal breaker for her, then that's her decision and hers alone to make. But she needs to keep in mind that she may lose out on a lifetime of sisterhood because she couldn't live in a sorority house for 2-3 years. Try to keep her looking at the big picture.

Again, I know that's difficult now. But this is actually a much bigger decision than she may realize. She should take all the time she's been given to make it.

I feel for you all! And the situation sucks… but it is what it is.