Dating advice

[CarolinaDG]

Well, part of my problem is that I dated a guy for three months that I thought I was going to MARRY. I know, I know, three months is quick to start thinking that way, but I did. Now I feel wrong if I don't get that feeling right away when I'm with a guy. I haven't had a serious boyfriend since him. I do always have some sort of guy around, but it's always just a friendship-thing. I figure that way I won't get too desperate and start dating just anyone. And as far as changing my life around for a guy, there's no way I'd ever do that. Even when I was dating three-month boy... he lived 45 minutes away, so we'd only get to see each other once a week. He'd call every night, and I'd make sure I was in my room when he called since it was a LD phone call, but other than that, the times that we saw each other were simply when we both had time. He was pledging KA at the time, and it took a lot out of him, and I was in a service sorority at the time, and an officer, so that took a lot of time out of me. I remember on his birthday, we were going through our rush, and he had some KA thing that night, so I ended up driving over to Newberry at 11 at night, so that I wouldn't feel bad about missing his birthday. Point is, I think most of my problem with dating is a fear of committment. I got so hurt by him that I want to make sure the next one's worth it. Because he wasn't worth the hurt. My question is, though, why am I finding out after 2 weeks that the guy's wrong? Why am I not finding out earlier or later?