advice for an oos at an SEC school

[iamamom]

Thanks for the thoughts. Right now she thinks she wants to try, but doesn't have any idea how competitive it is for the girls who've grown up around it.

I'm actually very neutral on sororities, I didn't do it in college and it definitely is not my personal preference. However, if she wants to do it, I will help her figure out how to put her best foot forward.

I'm an "overachiever" with everything - spreadsheets are my bread and butter - lol. You should see my college spreadsheet! And trust me, if my d wants something, I'll figure out the way to best go about it.

I don't do the last minute panic thing well, so I figure we have all these months, let's figure this thing out.

Plus, given it's my "baby" I've got to focus on something besides my empty nest next year! Sure, I could focus on my job, but how boring would that be?

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by iamamom

Thanks for the thoughts. Right now she thinks she wants to try, but doesn't have any idea how competitive it is for the girls who've grown up around it.

I'm actually very neutral on sororities, I didn't do it in college and it definitely is not my personal preference. However, if she wants to do it, I will help her figure out how to put her best foot forward.

I'm an "overachiever" with everything - spreadsheets are my bread and butter - lol. You should see my college spreadsheet! And trust me, if my d wants something, I'll figure out the way to best go about it.

I don't do the last minute panic thing well, so I figure we have all these months, let's figure this thing out.

Plus, given it's my "baby" I've got to focus on something besides my empty nest next year! Sure, I could focus on my job, but how boring would that be?

I am all for helping your kid, but I think that she needs to be driving this bus. Otherwise, she might feel compelled to make certain decisions because mommy did so much work.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by iamamom

I don't do the last minute panic thing well, so I figure we have all these months, let's figure this thing out.

Well, you won't be doing the recruitment thing either. She will, so she needs to be the one to figure this stuff out.

Speaking as a parent, I'd say step away from the spreadsheets.

[ADPiEE]

I know it's hard (I'm a parent too) but let you daughter take the lead with this. Tell her you're there to help her if she needs it and wait until she asks. Imagine how you would help her out if she were going on a job interview. Take her shopping, proof read her resume for typos, be there to listen and support, etc.

If you need recs and can't find them, register with your local city Panhellenic. They will help you find recs usually. If you're in a smaller town or suburb, contact Panhellenic in the closest city. You can suggest to her to contact a Panhellenic group but let her be the one to contact them.

A good "life lesson" she'll learn is that stereotypes are just that--stereotypes (not reality). Yes there are less than classy girls and mean girls that join sororities but there is also every other type of girl in every sorority on campus. Sororities are so big these days that no matter where she ends up, she'll be able to find friends and girls she "clicks" with.

A note about clothing--if your daughter isn't into Lilly, she shouldn't wear it. Keep the "job interview" analogy in mind again. The brand doesn't really matter--stick to classic, well fitting clothes that she feels confident in. I think all SEC schools put out a "what to wear each day" guide and you can normally find it on the school's Panhellenic website.

Good luck to your daughter and don't stress!