At this point it sounds like you could never be completely comfortable in this fraternity without worrying about who was on your side, and who was not. It also sounds like this is another case of too-fast growing pains with some internal differences between members and maybe you being made a scapegoat for "old XYZ" vs. "new XYZ" which isn't fair and sucks, but that's life.
Have guys in your situation (associated with a group, to the point of living in-house, for over a year) successfully gone on to pledge a different fraternity at your campus? That is what you want to look at.
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