Transfer Recruitment Story

[Missouri Ivy]

Would you walk into any other group full of people you've never met or only talked to for a few minutes and expect to feel completely at home? Relationships take time to develop. Relax and get a good night's sleep. It can be easy to second guess yourself, but had you dropped, there's no guarantee you'd have gotten a bid from the colony, or that any groups would be doing informal this spring. Starting tomorrow, make it your mission to start getting to know your new sisters. The best way to tamp down those thoughts of the "grass being greener" is to keep busy and appreciate what you already have. Congratulations on your bid. I hope you'll have a great time in your chapter.

[Wynter]

Originally Posted by Missouri Ivy

Would you walk into any other group full of people you've never met or only talked to for a few minutes and expect to feel completely at home? Relationships take time to develop. Relax and get a good night's sleep. It can be easy to second guess yourself, but had you dropped, there's no guarantee you'd have gotten a bid from the colony, or that any groups would be doing informal this spring. Starting tomorrow, make it your mission to start getting to know your new sisters. The best way to tamp down those thoughts of the "grass being greener" is to keep busy and appreciate what you already have. Congratulations on your bid. I hope you'll have a great time in your chapter.

I agree with this 100% I think during the excitement and stress and craziness of recruitment, with all of its pageantry, many PNMs forget that sororities do not mean instant best friends. Groups are complicated and it takes time and hard work just like any relationship.

But I have to tell you girl, being part of a sisterhood is the most amazing feeling in the world. Once you're in (initiated, if you choose to stay that is), it's something I can't even describe.

[*winter*]

The fun started for me when I got my Big. Until then, it was just kind of a blur of pledge (yeah- I'm old! LOL!) meetings and crafting events. We did a lot of get to know you, but I'm kind of shy so it took me longer to feel at home.

The bonds come from shared experiences- when you start studying with these girls, eating meals with them, meeting up at the gym and doing things on the weekends, you will begin to really feel like part of the group. Silly college things like group study sessions for midterms or late night trips to the 24 hour store or diner. Take every opportunity to be social with the girls, not only at the sorority events, but outside of them. Try to find a niche or group you feel comfortable with, or some other new members.

If all this happens and you still don't...you can decide what you want to do the .

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by *winter*

The fun started for me when I got my Big. Until then, it was just kind of a blur of pledge (yeah- I'm old! LOL!) meetings and crafting events.

This!

I have a horrible memory anyway, but what I remember the least of my collegiate sorority experience was my pledge period. It really is such a weird time, especially the first few weeks. You get a bid, you celebrate with people you don't even know, you're told to find a white dress, you go through a ceremony that you don't even fully understand, and you find yourself just kind of going through the motions. It's like settling into any new place; it's a little exciting, a little frightening, and you spend half your time trying to figure out what's going on and the other half trying to be sure you don't make a fool of yourself.

Eventually, though, you'll settle in, find some friends, learn about your sorority and what it means to be a part of one, and before you know it, the next group of new members will be going through their first ritual ceremony, and you'll laugh to yourself as you're reminded of how confused you were when you were in their shoes.

Just give it some time.