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Originally Posted by colordogs
For TAMU AlphaPhi Interest=feeling like they liked her as a person NOT a promise of a bid, etc
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That sounds a little like the reaction my daughter had after preferencing at one of her legacy chapters. She decided to rank the group she'd liked best all week #1 and her legacy group #2. But she was surprisingly torn because A) she knew if she ranked her legacy group #1 she would get her first choice (even if they weren't her first choice in her heart) and there was something comforting in that after the stress of the week and B) the girl she spent the majority of the pref party with at her legacy chapter made it very clear the choice to join them was now my daughter's. In fact, she spent a good deal of time talking about how much she'd like to be my daughter's big, etc.
My daughter isn't a fan of conflict and ranking her legacy house #2 after preference felt to her like she was rejecting them and inviting conflict. In the end, she decided to go with her heart. But, we talked about the fact that she liked her legacy house and that getting a bid from them instead of her top choice would be the universe's way of guiding her to the "right" place.
I do think my daughter felt more "wanted" by her legacy chapter -- but I don't think that was necessarily the case. My gut tells me that the non-legacy chapters were just as genuinely interested in her, they simply couldn't be as direct about their feelings.
I hope your daughter ends up where her heart led her!
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