A Hunger Games Recruitment - Page 5

cinder1965 · #61 08-30-2013, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Also please tell her that after college many of us have met sisters from different chapters who have become some of our greatest friends as well as panhellenic sisters who also fall into that category!

I double LIKE this quote! So true!!!!

PersistentDST · #62 08-30-2013, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Also please tell her that after college many of us have met sisters from different chapters who have become some of our greatest friends as well as panhellenic sisters who also fall into that category!

I 100% agree with this! My best friend is a Soror from another chapter, and I have been embraced by so many from other chapters! And many of my close friends are members of other sororities! (As I am reading this, one of my favorite Zeta's was walking away from my desk

) I love all my SisterGreeks!

DeltaBetaBaby · #63 08-30-2013, 11:10 AM

There are women in my OWN chapter who I didn't really click with in college, and became my best friends once we entered the real world.

love2read · #64 08-30-2013, 08:22 PM

I'm officially a dork...

I just checked out Lucy's facebook page and 4 of her new sisters posted on her page welcoming her to Sigma Kappa.

I actually cried. It was so sweet. It's like these sisters new that she needed that. I'm hoping that it touched her, but I don't know. It touched my heart. LOL.

I'm such a dork.

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To my lovely Sigma Kappa's out there, I'd like to get Lucy a gift. What would you suggest?

love2read · #65 08-30-2013, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by PersistentDST

I 100% agree with this! My best friend is a Soror from another chapter, and I have been embraced by so many from other chapters! And many of my close friends are members of other sororities! (As I am reading this, one of my favorite Zeta's was walking away from my desk

) I love all my SisterGreeks!

Totally! One of my good friends is an AGD. When I get back to AZ to visit I totally plan on meeting AZTheta and AXOadvisor and DesertRose and they are all in different chapters!

I love my SisterGreeks. We should totally make a shirt saying that! Put all the sororities symbols and say "I love my Sister Greeks".

SigKapSweetie · #66 08-30-2013, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by love2read

To my lovely Sigma Kappa's out there, I'd like to get Lucy a gift. What would you suggest?

If she didn't get one as a bid day gift, maybe either a Lilly Pulitzer or Tervis tumbler? They both offer Sigma Kappa options and seem quite popular down here. Tervis will monogram theirs for you, but you might want to consider getting one of those vinyl monogram decals to stick onto the Lilly one if they are popular in her chapter, because otherwise there is no way to tell yours from every other sister's.

love2read · #67 09-02-2013, 04:36 PM

Update....

Quite honestly I don't know what Lucy is going to do.

One minute I look on her facebook page and I see her with her new sisters in pictures and she is smiling and she seems happy. The next I'm getting a text message saying that a girl in her pledge class has dropped and that she still isn't sure if she is "feeling it". She also was concerned because her first payment was due today.

I kind of gave her "tough love".

I told her "you need to decide if you want to give it a try or not. It takes more than a week to get to know people. Plus you are held to your bid for a calendar year, which means you can't go through any type of recruitment until next fall. You need to think about those things you told me about sk at the beginning of recruitment. Remember those things you liked about them. But in the end you have to follow your heart".

I truly don't know what is going to happen. She hasn't responded to me. I hope I didn't hurt her feelings because that was never my intention. I've always been honest with her about recruitment and expectations. I'm not going to start sugar coating things for her now.

clemsongirl · #68 09-02-2013, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by love2read

Update....

Quite honestly I don't know what Lucy is going to do.

One minute I look on her facebook page and I see her with her new sisters in pictures and she is smiling and she seems happy. The next I'm getting a text message saying that a girl in her pledge class has dropped and that she still isn't sure if she is "feeling it". She also was concerned because her first payment was due today.

I kind of gave her "tough love".

I told her "you need to decide if you want to give it a try or not. It takes more than a week to get to know people. Plus you are held to your bid for a calendar year, which means you can't go through any type of recruitment until next fall. You need to think about those things you told me about sk at the beginning of recruitment. Remember those things you liked about them. But in the end you have to follow your heart".

I truly don't know what is going to happen. She hasn't responded to me. I hope I didn't hurt her feelings because that was never my intention. I've always been honest with her about recruitment and expectations. I'm not going to start sugar coating things for her now.

Oh I hope she stays with it! I almost wish I knew who she was so I could go talk to her in person...doubly so if she ended up being one of my residents (I'm an RA)! I hope the tough love speech got through to her as you are totally right and sugar coating won't change the fact that she is bound to them for a year. Is she a freshman or an upperclassman? If she's a freshman than she has a chance of re-rushing and being more successful, but if she isn't than this will likely be her last chance at Greek Life. I wish her the best in making this tough decision.

love2read · #69 09-02-2013, 09:56 PM

clemsongirl-I'm not sure if she is living in the dorms or not. She is a sophomore.

I did talk to Lucy about an after I posted. I wanted to make sure she wasn't mad at me for my "tough love" speech. I also wanted her to make decisions for herself not based on the rumor mill of campus or what a girl in her Pi Chi group decided to do.

She messaged me back saying she wasn't upset with me and that she has decided to stay in Sigma Kappa! She is giving it a shot!

She has her first chapter meeting tonight. She is still on the border but I truly believe now that she has made the commitment to stay in the chapter that she will grow to love it!

As soon as I get more money I do plan on buying her a gift.

Question for those of you- would it be weird, if she decides to initiate, to write her a letter congratulating her on her choice to initiate and ask her big to give it to her?

IndianaSigKap · #70 09-02-2013, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by love2read

Question for those of you- would it be weird, if she decides to initiate, to write her a letter congratulating her on her choice to initiate and ask her big to give it to her?

Not weird at all, very thoughtful of you!

love2read · #71 09-13-2013, 04:56 PM

Lucy has chapter retreat this weekend. Doesn't sound like its mandatory as she said she was "thinking" about going to "get to know more sisters". I encouraged her to go.

I got in contact with some Sigma Kappa's who have been AMAZING! They have pointed me in the right direction and I'm now in contact with one of Lucy's chapter sisters. She has agreed to "help me" surprise Lucy with a letter for initiation.

I feel like a mom who is proud of her daughter. (Which if I had been a 15 year old teen mom, she could be my kid, but I wasn't).

I actually just thought of the perfect present for her too.

cinder1965 · #72 09-23-2013, 10:27 PM

Any update on Lucy and how she is doing?

FSUZeta · #73 09-24-2013, 09:26 AM

Yes please!

love2read · #74 09-25-2013, 09:11 PM

Lucy is doing much better!

She has joined her chapters dance team.

I have encouraged her to run for a leadership position within the chapter (not that I know when their elections are).

I have been in contact with an advisor of the chapter who put me in touch with the new member educator. I can send my letter to the new member educator.

She is still making new friends. I'm glad that she continues to get involved with the chapter.

cinder1965 · #75 09-25-2013, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by love2read

Lucy is doing much better!

She has joined her chapters dance team.

I have encouraged her to run for a leadership position within the chapter (not that I know when their elections are).

I have been in contact with an advisor of the chapter who put me in touch with the new member educator. I can send my letter to the new member educator.

She is still making new friends. I'm glad that she continues to get involved with the chapter.

Great news!!