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Originally Posted by srattyrebel
I am ahead on my credits for college so if in some of my sophomore classes as an oos girl I know I want to make connections/a good impression with current members before rush, but does that violate panhellenic's rules?
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Srattyrebel, and Hearttoheart, no, talking in classes with sophomores does not violate Panhellenic's rules. In fact, as an OOS student, classes are a great way to meet sorority women. It does NOT mean that you literally cannot interact with sorority women.
The "no contact" rule means no direct communication through Facebook, phone calls, texts, emails, etc. No "invitations" or pre-arranged meetings. If you run into sorority women randomly, you can talk with them, hang out with them in public areas like the classroom or the union, etc. But those meetings can't be planned in advance, and you cannot become Facebook friends or text. And you wouldn't be able to go somewhere semi-private or private--say, see them at the Union, then agree to meet them off-campus for dinner. When I was at Ole Miss, this was extended even to people who already had existing relationships. Just because you knew Amanda ABC since you were little kids, you were still not allowed to go hang out at her apartment. She was not supposed to have "direct contact" with you, invite you over, send you texts, etc. She could only have spontaneous contact in public places (obviously this rule was loosened for relatives).
Basically, you can only meet randomly and in public, unless it is an organized Greek event like the pre-recruitment CARE Walk or Water Parties.
ACCEPTABLE: Running into an ABC that you kind of know while waiting in line for Starbucks. Sitting down and chatting with her for a few minutes at the student union, then going separate ways. She introduces you to her friend, who is also an ABC. OK because: unplanned, spontaneous meeting in a public place.
Not OK: XYZ member texts you, "lots of XYZ's love to get Starbucks at the Union around 2 pm on Wednesdays! Hope to see you there!" When you arrive, a swarm of XYZs pull you over to talk. Not okay because: direct contact with member, meeting is prearranged.
ACCEPTABLE: You are assigned to work with a DEF member in your bio lab. Your teacher made the assignment and you can't change it. You have to call and text her to discuss your lab project. OK Because: 100% school-related, teacher assigned.
Not OK: QQQ member in your Lit class asks if you want to join her "study group" that meets at her apartment on Wednesday night. When you get there, only QQQ members are there. They hang out and talk with you, not working on school-related stuff. Not okay because: pre-arranged meeting not related to school.
The onus is on the sorority members to follow these rules, not the PNM. They'll be the ones who "get in trouble," unless you're somehow proven to be the criminal mastermind of wheeling-and-dealing with sorority girls. This was the way the rules were interpreted when I was there (mid-2000s).
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