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Originally Posted by Katmandu
Yea, I know what you mean. This spring, I heard about the sister of a co worker going through rush at a competitive school and offered to write a rec. Co-worker said, "oh, I don't think she will need to do all that....it just seems so over the top"
I tried to tell her it was vital at the school, but got the eyeroll. I could just hear her thinking, "OMG you old bag, stuck in the past with your white gloves, cotillions and RECOMMENDATIONS!" Shrug. Hope it works out for her. Bless her heart.
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What gets me about these situations is that, if they'd read info on the Panhellenic websites of these schools, they would know recs are not over the top and do need to be taken seriously. If they had any idea what some PNMs go through to get the needed recs, they would appreciate an actual offer from someone to provide one.
A friend and I (alums for different sororities) were at a party once, talking with a mom whose daughter was heading into a competitive SEC recruitment. We both offered to do recs, but got an "oh-aren't-you-sweet-but-thanks-but-no-thanks" smile as she told us her daughter was "pretty much guaranteed" bids to certain chapters because of inside connections. You can imagine how rushing at a competitive SEC school sans recs worked out. This happened several years ago, but the topic of recruitment is still off-limits with the mom.
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