Big and Little relations

Sig95 · #1 04-09-2013, 05:27 AM

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adpiucf · #2 04-09-2013, 08:54 AM

Distancing yourself from her completely is going to be the only thing that helps you get over it. Sorry to say it, but your "big/little" relationship will not likely recover. This happens a lot.

AOII Angel · #3 04-09-2013, 09:02 AM

This is one reason why Big/Little relationships are discouraged.

33girl · #4 04-09-2013, 09:04 AM

And this is why fraternity/sorority big/little stuff is STUPID AND UNNECESSARY. She's not your property because she's your "little." If she wants to hook up with every single one of your brothers, that's her business.

Kevin · #5 04-09-2013, 09:20 AM

Friend zoned.

Sig95 · #6 04-09-2013, 09:32 AM

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And this is why fraternity/sorority big/little stuff is STUPID AND UNNECESSARY. She's not your property because she's your "little." If she wants to hook up with every single one of your brothers, that's her business.

I never claimed her to be my property but I think normal human beings tend grow attached to someone when they spend so much time with them, so I would also assume it'd be pretty normal to feel jealous if something like this happened.No need to be so hostile I was simply seeking some advice.

AOII Angel · #7 04-09-2013, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Sig95

I never claimed her to be my property but I think normal human beings tend grow attached to someone when they spend so much time with them, so I would also assume it'd be pretty normal to feel jealous if something like this happened.No need to be so hostile I was simply seeking some advice.

Advice- she doesn't like you like that. Get over her. Be her friend or avoid her if you can't control your jealousy.

Kevin · #8 04-09-2013, 09:46 AM

I didn't see that either.

She's not into you. If you can, work on maintaining some emotional distance. If that doesn't work, you're going to just need some time apart. She can continue to be a part of your life, but you're going to probably have to figure out what she's going to be in your life considering that she doesn't have the same feelings for you which you have for her. If you don't think she can be a part of your life and an interference in future relationships, you need to just move on. Life's too short.

TonyB06 · #9 04-09-2013, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Kevin

Friend zoned.

+1

Once you get "friend zoned," you never get back out. Move on.

Sig95 · #10 04-09-2013, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Kevin

I didn't see that either.

She's not into you. If you can, work on maintaining some emotional distance. If that doesn't work, you're going to just need some time apart. She can continue to be a part of your life, but you're going to probably have to figure out what she's going to be in your life considering that she doesn't have the same feelings for you which you have for her. If you don't think she can be a part of your life and an interference in future relationships, you need to just move on. Life's too short.

Thank you that's all I was looking for. I'm going to try and do that and maintain more of an emotional distance because I do agree I need to move on from her. As far as what I want her to be to me, is simply a great friend because thats what we were before all of this and I at least want that back. Like you said I'm going to keep my distance and if that doesn't work than I guess I'll just have move on completely. Thank you for your advice.

Kevin · #11 04-09-2013, 10:59 AM

But really, please don't be the guy who thinks he can be super nice to her and she'll eventually change her mind and come around. College presents, at least where dating and relationships are concerned, what you'd call a target rich environment. Your'e crazy to not be exploring every possibility you can right now.

Sig95 · #12 04-09-2013, 11:08 AM

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But really, please don't be the guy who thinks he can be super nice to her and she'll eventually change her mind and come around. College presents, at least where dating and relationships are concerned, what you'd call a target rich environment. Your'e crazy to not be exploring every possibility you can right now.

Haha not to worry I'm not that naive to think that, I definitely plan on getting myself back out there and having fun. Its not like she was "the one" it just kinda sucks things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. I just genuinely value her friendship that's all.