Am I setting myself up for disappointment? / Florida State

[FSUZeta]

Sorry I am late to the dance, but I have been having internet problems.

You have been given some great advice. You have pointed out areas where you might be lacking in comparison to other PNMs, and it has been suggested that you secure recommendations, to which you said you know no alumnae. As the ladies have suggested, you need to take care of those things that you can possibly change, and recommendations should be at the top of the list.

Find the thread that has all the suggestions on how to find recs. You can do this and you need to do this! Exhaust all possibilities. Not only will you gain some much needed recommendations, but you can also hone your conversation skills as you talk to people in your quest for recs.

As to your activities, perhaps it is not too late to join a club or organization. Look around for a club that is related to your major or involves one of your interests. Volunteer in some capacity on campus before school is out. If you are not working this summer, do volunteer. It will look good on your rush resume, as well as your resume when you are in the hunt for a job.

If you live on campus, surely some of your dorm neighbors joined sororities. Perhaps you can casually tell them that you are going to go thru rush in the fall and wondered if they could tell you a little about their experience. That might open the door for some tips on appropriate attire for rush, or a description of how the different parties are run, or the types of conversations your neighbor had with her rush hostess. Mentally prepare some questions to ask her to keep the conversation flowing. Not only will you get the scoop on FSU rush, but you will have an opportunity to practice those conversation skills and there is now a sorority member who knows that you will be rushing in the fall.

Your high school activities will no longer count-college is a new chapter of your life. Maximize those things that are in your plus column, change the things that you can change, and prepare yourself the best you can. You are going to need to put yourself out there, to perhaps get a little uncomfortable by approaching strangers for rush tips and recommendations, so you need to decide if sorority membership is worth the effort. I think it is!