Am I setting myself up for disappointment? / Florida State

[WCsweet<3]

*Paging FSUZeta*

Not overly familiar with the campus, but from what I gather:
I realize there are only like 6 weeks left in the semester, but you could still try and get involved on campus! Also adding things over the summer like volunteer work is always good. I'd highly suggest this even if you weren't going through recruitment. I strongly believe people should be involved on campus, social or otherwise.

Rushing as a sophomore will be a disadvantage. I believe we have another PNM who will be a sophomore going through. Instead of focusing on what you can't change (ie not being involved) focus on the positives and make connections. You may end up disappointed, but wouldn't it be a bigger disappointment if you never tried? In addition to getting involved (even just a little bit!), get recommendation letters. Info on these are found in the stickied threads in Sorority recruitment forum.

Also here is a story from a sophomore PNM at FSU: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=115417 You can see, she had a rough recruitment, but it did work out in the end. Notice what she did and how she made a difference in her different aspects. She changed things in just two months. Give everyone a chance, even if they aren't the most glamourous in recruitment.

ETA: I also believe AOPi is colonizing this Fall. Another opportunity if things don't work out with formal.

[berr]

WCsweet,

I'm not acquainted with any alumnae, so getting recommendation letters isn't really an option...

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by berr

WCsweet,

I'm not acquainted with any alumnae, so getting recommendation letters isn't really an option...

This statment really gets some people on GC really, really exasperated.

Unless you live under a rock and know absolutely NO female college graduates, then I bet that you know sorority alumnae. You just don't realize it.

Instead of taking a defeatist attitude about recs, READ here about how to locate sorority women among your teachers, relatives, coaches, parents' friends, ladies at church, etc.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by thetalady

This statment really gets some people on GC really, really exasperated.

Unless you live under a rock and know absolutely NO female college graduates, then I bet that you know sorority alumnae. You just don't realize it.

Seriously though. Oregon isn't the largest area of sorority enthusiasm and I thought I only knew one or two women who are members. I am still finding women I know (and have known for practically my entire life!) that are members. Sure some of the organizations that were on my campus would have been hard to find, but I could easily find an alumna that I had known.

Point of the story: Highly doubt someone who lives in the south doesn't know a single sorority alumna.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Point of the story: Highly doubt someone who lives in the south doesn't know a single sorority alumna.

If you find one alumna she probably knows more.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by berr

WCsweet,

I'm not acquainted with any alumnae, so getting recommendation letters isn't really an option...

Dear, going through recruitment at FSU without recs isn't an option. If you want to try to obtain a bid to a sorority, then you have to do your homework, and getting recs is a very large part of that homework. There are more threads about great places to get recs on Greek Chat than probably any one topic.

Get them, and good luck.

[GammaGirl1908]

Originally Posted by berr

I'm not acquainted with any alumnae, so getting recommendation letters isn't really an option...

Agreeing with others that you likely DO know sorority women. You just don't know who they are!

For example, I belong to an NPHC sorority, so I wouldn't be able to help you personally, and you might think at first glance that I couldn't possibly be of any use in this particular quest.

HOWEVER! I have very close friends in Delta Gamma, Kappa Alpha Theta, Kappa Kappa Gamma, and Alpha Chi Omega. If I knew you and wanted to help you, I could make a few calls. (... and those 4 orgs are off the top of my head; I also know ladies who were Greek but I don't know offhand which organization.)

Now, I don't know you (...so please don't PM me asking me to help you!), but who DOES know you is your friends' parents, your parents' friends, your parents' coworkers and coworkers' wives, your church members, your neighbors, your school teachers, your ex-babysitters, your dance and piano teachers, and so forth. Among them are people like me who either know women who were in sororities, or who were in a sorority but you aren't aware of it. If you don't know them, you are about to GET to know them. Work your network.

Don't assume you don't know anyone who can help. Instead, assume that you know several people who can help; you just don't know who they are yet.