New member dilemma

[ADPi95]

Is there a way you can turn what you perceive to be a negative into a positive? Can you volunteer to be a sober sister? You can either stay at home and wait for a call, or attend a social event and stay sober and offer a ride home.

I know that the chapter I advise is always looking to assign sober sisters for events. Everyone is ALWAYS appreciate of those who volunteer.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ADPi95

Is there a way you can turn what you perceive to be a negative into a positive? Can you volunteer to be a sober sister? You can either stay at home and wait for a call, or attend a social event and stay sober and offer a ride home.

I know that the chapter I advise is always looking to assign sober sisters for events. Everyone is ALWAYS appreciate of those who volunteer.

Some GLOs/chapters aren't allowed to have an official sober sister program as their leadership perceives it as acknowledging that underage drinking occurs and acknowledging that incurs more risk for the organization. (Kind of like pretending that the Mafia doesn't exist by not mentioning it.) That being said, she can certainly make that offer in an unofficial capacity if she has a car and feels comfortable doing so.

The only "negative" here is that she's avoiding events with her sisters (and throwing dues money down the toilet).

[ADPi95]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Some GLOs/chapters aren't allowed to have an official sober sister program as their leadership perceives it as acknowledging that underage drinking occurs and acknowledging that incurs more risk for the organization. (Kind of like pretending that the Mafia doesn't exist by not mentioning it.) That being said, she can certainly make that offer in an unofficial capacity if she has a car and feels comfortable doing so.

The only "negative" here is that she's avoiding events with her sisters (and throwing dues money down the toilet).

Thanks for clearing that up! And yes, even in an unofficial capacity she could still offer to help. No one needs to be driving under the influence, overage (or underage).

And I totally agree about the missing out part!

[KSUViolet06]

I joined at 19 and was one of those people who didn't drink til I was legal. If I'd avoided social events because I didn't drink, I would never have gone to a formal.

Service is cool. Chapter meeting is ok. But 10 years down the road when you're my age, the things you're going to talk about and cherish the most are things like your first formal where such and such hilarious thing happened. Or the time at date party when _________. If I'd avoided socials because I didn't drink, I wouldn't have been part of those moments.

There were even some nights AFTER I turned 21 where I just didn't feel like drinking, but still hung out at whatever event, because the point of the event was creating memories and those "Hey remember when?" moments with my girls.

No good fun story ever starts with "That one time, at business meeting..."

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

No good fun story ever starts with "That one time, at business meeting..."